So...is anyone ever on here?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 17, 2019:

Of course I'm here, where else would I be?

"The Adventures of Rin Tin Tin" - 1954 to 1959.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 17, 2019:

Like the old Hollywood westerns, they are all sparkling clean and fresh!

Date 3: I thought that I posted this last night, but I don't see it.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 16, 2019:

Nice work on your part, staying cognizant of specific behaviors and events! At this stage of life, we can move forward more successfully by being aware of what we have learned in what does and does not work for us in relationships. Dating realities are different when you've spent a few decades on this rock, and we benefit by being honest with ourselves. Am I right, or am I left?

Tonight I had a pretty bad first and last date.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 16, 2019:

I don't know that I've ever called anyone a douche-bag. WHAT a douche-bag!

Distracted by everything. Lol. [youtu.be]

tinkercreek comments on Mar 15, 2019:

Oh, that is precious, and a really good giggle!

Well Im off the dating market.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 15, 2019:

How wonderful, wishing you both all the best!!

Time to round up the guard-dinos & alert the G.I. Joes for garden duty:

tinkercreek comments on Mar 14, 2019:

Haha, I love it! Please tell me they keep the moles away???

What was your worst experience with someone from an online dating site?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 13, 2019:

OK: A couple years ago I started dating someone and things were going well over a couple months. We had attraction, similar backgrounds, values and interests in common, having fun and getting along well. He asked me/brought me to an RV dealer to help in the final pick of a travel trailer he'd been planning, and we talked about places to see & visit. Shortly after he took delivery of the trailer we decided on a nearby campground and an extended weekend, though he would go over on Tuesday to get set up and enjoy some quiet time to work on his art. We texted & chatted a time or two after he got there. I worked a half day, prepared food, packed up, and hit the road on a sunny Thursday afternoon, looking forward to the weekend. Sent him a text about halfway there for ETA, and what I got back was "can we talk on the phone?" Bluetooth up, called, and he answered with an odd affect. He went into some description of thinking the time alone was helpful, he really just wanted to spend the rest of the week on his own, think it's really best . . . and I was dumbfounded. It was only then I allowed myself to think about the communication since he'd been there: long delays before returning text messages, quick & quiet conversations that seemed very uncomfortable for him, yep. What a sweet deal, setting up a little holiday with the option of switching one woman out for another, depending on how things went!

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tinkercreek comments on Mar 13, 2019:

Ooooh, I like this! I get several of those daily and will give it a go!

We haven't met yet, I don't understand why. ?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 11, 2019:

Just gotta say, I am really loving this site, so many kindred spirits!!

M nectarine tree's first day of bloom, and and I think my hyacinths could use a little Viagra, but ...

tinkercreek comments on Mar 11, 2019:

SO jealous here in Oregon! The garden centers haven't even set out stock, aside from some vege starts. Good news on 2 fronts: many of those are organic and non-GMO, and current weather forecast says last night was our last below freezing!!

Donald Trump Parade in Washington An associate of Trump's - a golfing buddy - told him he'd had ...

tinkercreek comments on Mar 11, 2019:

OMG, that's the best!

I'm a complete novice at this - and to be fair, I joined for intellectual stimulation more than ...

tinkercreek comments on Mar 10, 2019:

Slimers and scammers will both drop off when ignored. Yes, it's still annoying!

Ok .

tinkercreek comments on Mar 9, 2019:

Nothing ventured . . . nothing learned!

Not feeling well today

tinkercreek comments on Mar 9, 2019:

Dang, that never works when your job is medical!

Question. Do you avoid dating people with the same name as your ex or exes?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 7, 2019:

Just one - won't do it!

And now Aunt Mary has decided it's time to put all her eggs in one basket.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 7, 2019:

Good on ye, my dear, and all the best!

are you older than dirt ?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 7, 2019:

Yay, it's official!

remember the buddy system !

tinkercreek comments on Mar 7, 2019:

That's cute!

Who decides what to do?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 7, 2019:

Had he said he would call later, to hear what you would like to do, this would be different. Given that he asked you to go out without that qualifier, he should have had a plan, or at least a few suggestions for you to choose from! It's not a gender issue, as anyone who asks another out should behave the same, just a courtesy.

A woman has a problem with her closet door, it was falling out every time a bus was passing by.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 6, 2019:

OMG, that's really funny!

So.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 6, 2019:

So glad you shared your success with us! This is really wonderful to hear of someone finding a great companion, well-suited to them in so many ways. Obviously, the start with shared health/fitness habits was strong, and I am overjoyed for you discovering so much else you share with this dear man. Wishing you both all the best, with thanks for uplifting and encouraging the rest of us!

A really old joke. My apologies...lol?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 5, 2019:

Apology accepted, I like it!

An odd one this.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 5, 2019:

I was starting to giggle a bit here at the long line of positive response from women only. Whew, so glad a few enlightened men stepped in!!

"Hello?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 5, 2019:

Ah that's great, the perfect lead-up!

Online dating for dogs

tinkercreek comments on Mar 3, 2019:

And just what makes this apply more to dogs than humans?

Can you develop a friendship with an on line dating partner with whom you feel no chemistry?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 3, 2019:

I do think it is rare, but (hopefully) possible. Most importantly, you made your views and wishes clear and he actively disrespected you in that. Best be done with this venture, I think.

There were two elderly people living in a Florida mobile home park.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 3, 2019:

Yikes, that's a scary little peak into the future! Reminds me of the movie "The Lobster", where any choice is the only choice.

We’re safe in Portland! [huffpost.com]

tinkercreek comments on Mar 3, 2019:

So proud of my city and state!

Time to get your glad rags on, we need milk!! ?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 3, 2019:

This is a sad commentary on US culture and values.

Fucking Passwords Create a password.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 3, 2019:

OMG, nearly spit out my tea!!!

Wonderful date! My feet hurt! Dinner and dancing and no hanky panky.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 3, 2019:

So happy for your wonderful time - you are an inspiration!!

Password security is getting intense.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 2, 2019:

It can be helpful to set up an algorithm you will always remember, that contains the usual requirements, and adjust the ending for each use.

I mentioned my road trip to the REI camping supply store sales person, and when she asked for ...

tinkercreek comments on Mar 2, 2019:

Perfect, you tell it!

I am at Jonado's apartment now! Here's a photo.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 2, 2019:

That is just SO stinkin' adorable!

Hysterical! HAHAHA! 😅😂😅😂

tinkercreek comments on Mar 1, 2019:

I will never be able to look at an avocado pit again without this image popping into my head.

So many questions.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 1, 2019:

OMG, that is awesome!

Kismet! The good news: I’ve been invited to go to a dance Saturday night, something I’ve been ...

tinkercreek comments on Mar 1, 2019:

Sounds like a wonderful plan all around - hope you have a fantastic time!!

Reader wanted.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 1, 2019:

C'mon, you've got to give a little for the metaphor! Book to shelf, human to lifestyle, it's all good. The sentiment and poetry is beautiful, brought immediate feelings of being loved and care for. Now THAT is good!

What do you expect for the first date?

tinkercreek comments on Mar 1, 2019:

Heeheehee, I count at least 7 points of contention just in what you wrote. Be done!

Yuck, I had to send a "Dear John" letter to a lady I met online.

tinkercreek comments on Mar 1, 2019:

You did the right thing, well done! Trust me, this disappointment will fade much more easily and completely than if you had tried to continue on through those red flags, or had not been considerate enough to let her know the truth.

I went on a lunch date yesterday for my birthday.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 27, 2019:

Oh, my dear, thank you for the clever narrative, and Happy Birthday, fellow Piscean! Your disappointment is our great giggle, and a learning for all on clarifying important details before meeting. Trying to be polite has no place in the vetting process, and neither does withholding information!

I posted about a guy I met for coffee a week ago tonight who wasn’t feeling it after meeting.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 26, 2019:

I must say, 5 days is not a long time, and it sounds quite nice that he would contact you. Lack of chemistry is not always the end-all, especially as you must have had a few commonalities and shared viewpoints, yes? Maybe consider the value of a casual friend or activity companion, and who knows - one of you may introduce the other to a friend better matched! Take a breath! You could always call back after a few days and apologize for being sick-grumpy?

Acupuncture.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 26, 2019:

That's great!

Online dating has been an infuriating waste of my considerable efforts and hopes.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 25, 2019:

The websites can be used as a gateway for presentation and contact, but reading through profiles and communicating people for verification is all on us! Being willing to make as much as a 60 minute drive to increase your odds is also an important factor.

...the most reasonable conclusion is that they’re ALL wrong!

tinkercreek comments on Feb 24, 2019:

Or perhaps, just exclusively deluded.

What's a "date"? I keep seeing the word.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 24, 2019:

I think we're experienced enough as a society to be done with the sexist patterns of the male, of a male/female interest, being responsible for asking, planning and paying for a "date". It can be fun and flattering, but I've found it uncomfortable to be on the receiving end of this, just doesn't seem fair or healthy. Now, if someone offers, and is both financially capable and emotionally comfortable with the arrangement, it can sift out fine, and perhaps start an exchange on 'hosting' shared activities. Aren't we ready for this?

I got my first cock tease on catfish last night.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 24, 2019:

Ok, thanks for the education!

Ok so we’re here because we’ve done online dating and had mixed experiences.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 24, 2019:

You have no obligation to respond to anyone who dials your number! The caller should ID themselves if there has been no ongoing communication.

Update; the lady in the UK (I 1st met on here) and I are still talking/texting away nicely and ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 24, 2019:

Wow, this sounds lovely, best of luck to you both!

What kind of "hidden agenda" do people have when they're searching for somebody to date?

tinkercreek comments on Feb 24, 2019:

Why, oh why, would you not want to put forward the idea that you will not participate in a slow, shared suicide? Or any other honest thought?

Okay, my hobby is hypnotizing people (stage type hypnosis) .

tinkercreek comments on Feb 23, 2019:

Ummm, just before you plan to practice your hobby on them, or as a matter of general interest???

I have a master's degree I was born to my parents, in an apartment, in Tacoma, WA.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 23, 2019:

You are a brilliant and beautiful star, and deserving of all the good you've worked so hard to set up for yourself. Take it all in with pride as you show the world how great life can be!

Perfect day. Perfect man. Life is good.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 23, 2019:

My, my, do tell!

Day 2 of plenty of fake fish.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 23, 2019:

I have encountered many people online who seem to be profoundly depressed, and/or unable to carry on a measure of reasonable banter. Some open up a bit upon meeting in person, though never really to a point different than the online presence. My logic says that by engaging in the written online experience, one should be capable of communicating in writing. Silly me.

I have just updated my profile to include this, as so many catfish profiles are so beige: "By the ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 23, 2019:

That is both interesting and adorable! If you lived nearby, I would definitely respond to your profile and see if we could set up a coffee meeting. Oh, yeah and the 'if' would extend to if I was still subjecting my lifestyle and sanity to the online dating experience. If.

Early in January I was contacted on the dating site by a guy who lives in northern Ohio about 3 ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 23, 2019:

This does sound promising - wishing for the best!

For those who’s ever had to defend the creation of the in god we trust

tinkercreek comments on Feb 21, 2019:

I believe it was 1956, so Eisenhower.

Tina Turner - Let's Stay Together Since we've been together Loving you forever Is all I need ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 21, 2019:

Ah, the song of my first love - I was so naive at 15! My parents were proud that I'd been chosen as the youth delegate for a convention, when in the registration line a dynamic man with full afro and stars-n-stripes overalls began talking with me. We spent a fair amount of time together that weekend, I learned how to kiss from the best, then he returned to Seattle and we began a correspondence with occasional phone calls and visits. He taught me of politics and pride and living for who you are. He sent me poetry and clipped verses, and I felt valued and respected as I never had. I will never understand how I was unaffected by my parents' discriminatory fears, or that of my lily-white little home town. Wasn't until many later I learned that my mother had taken and discarded many letters that she retrieved from the mail before I did, likely the last few he ever sent. Wow.

Without a doubt!

tinkercreek comments on Feb 21, 2019:

The Japanese have defined the practice of "Forest Bathing", a lovely melding of physical, emotional and spiritual benefit. "Into the forest I go, to lose my mind and find my soul."

Kirk Douglas at 102 yrs old and son Michael at 74 years old. Still looking good.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 20, 2019:

Randy not, there are some strong genes coursing through that family!

I sang at a memorial service for my former choir director today.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 19, 2019:

What a beautiful experience for you and all attending! The power of gathering in shared love is like nothing else.

Sen. Lindsey Graham Says Kentucky Kids Need 'Secure Border' More Than A School | HuffPost

tinkercreek comments on Feb 17, 2019:

OMG, I just saw that filmed. He actually maintains a straight face!

does anyone here have A flutter or fib?

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

In my 20's I worked as an ECG tech, which made me aware that the fluttering I sometimes felt in my chest was not normal - surprise! It was just benign atrial activity, a reassuring confirmation. Years later, my response to life stressors created a few episodes of runaway fast heartrate, the last one thinking I would not survive. Evaluation then found a previously unknown congenital condition, AtrialSeptal Defect, and I opted for surgical correction, which worked great. 20 yrs later, another huge stress and I flipped into Atrial Fib. I am one of those who feels that immediately, though not everyone does. We tried 2 cardioversions (paddle shock), which did not work. With a previous surgery I was advised against an Ablation and began taking Tikosyn, which has worked well for four years now. Any questions, I'm happy to field!

What’s everyone up to?

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

Have fun! Choral singing is absent from my life currently, but has always been a great joy and will certainly be for you - blessings!

Today I found that I had 5 long emails from an older member who lives in "the rust belt".

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

Gutting to think he may have gotten somewhere with someone else by using that approach, yes?

Is there any particular favorite activity listed in someone's profile that is a deal breaker for ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

Why would we want to give away these thoughts and observations??

A few weeks ago I posted about a man I had a date with and then didn't show on the next date we had ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

He's been jerking you around with highs and lows, intended to break down your awareness and rational thought. Fortunately, you maintained all that and saw through the games - I think the gaslighting comment is accurate. Likely best to do what you are able to block all of his potential contact with you: phone, email, website, etc., just to maintain your peace of mind and not let his manipulating lies worm their way into your thoughts again. Well done on the exit, my friend, and good riddance to one worthless annoyance!

Do you remember back in the 70's blowing out birthday candles, a lit cigarette 6 inches from your ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

So, you're telling us you grew up with beer-swilling smokers? How is your health?

Well, today,I did something for myself.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

Good for you, and how exciting! Is there a forecast expectation on when you could notice results?

Why you should always wash new clothes

tinkercreek comments on Feb 16, 2019:

Pardon my naivete, but I had no idea people used or wore any new soft goods without washing! - eeeuuwww, how could you?

Not looking for sympathy or pity, but just sharing a fact that this is my 3rd Valentine's Day ...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 15, 2019:

My goodness, are you referring to those few recent online notes to me, 3000 miles away? I would hope if you are seeking a genuine relationship you might begin conversations with women close to your area, that you could easily meet and get to know. You seem like a kind and genuine person, someone a true and genuine woman would be happy to discover at 'yet another' coffee date! I would wager that I am not the only person to find many complications in trying to make the acquaintance of someone even 100 miles away. All the best to you, Ted!

Happy Valentine's Day to all.

tinkercreek comments on Feb 13, 2019:

Nicely stated, and well considered, thank you! I am fortunate to have a brilliant and dear work team, and we'll gather at noon tomorrow to celebrate the State of Oregon's 160th Birthday with a cookie exchange. OK, so they don't exactly know that I'll be bringing State Birthday banners, but it's my way of avoiding hearts and cupids. They will adapt. Oops, the oven is warmed up, time to bake!

I can't believe this! A woman that I have gone out with on approximately 6 or seven dates in the the...

tinkercreek comments on Feb 10, 2019:

Could I please just apologize for and empathize with your awful experience with someone obviously harboring serious emotional/behavioral issues? She does not represent the healthy population of single women.

Who was that

tinkercreek comments on Jan 27, 2019:

When I meet someone and am focusing on their personality, demeanor, history, or concerns, I often miss the name, so will simply confirm their name at whatever point I am unsure of it. That can be predicated by something like "I know you're Tom's friend who makes lovely pottery from your garage, but could you please remind me of your name?" I think it's more appreciated by someone to know they are remembered for who they are, over what they are named.

From one of the books I grew up with: Webster's Unabridged, 1983.

tinkercreek comments on Jan 27, 2019:

Literary justice, I love it!

I've decided this you will be the year I get into a serious relationship with.

tinkercreek comments on Jan 26, 2019:

Taking the time to make peace with your self and better understand your own priorities will open doors in so many ways! I finally realized that the stress of constantly 'searching' for a partner created a different persona than my true self, blurring my impression of others. It is no wonder the men I met would soon appear entirely different, and less appealing, than I had thought them to be!

Mary Walsh on aging: [youtu.be]

tinkercreek comments on Jan 23, 2019:

This is a wondrous piece, such inspiring images and thoughts over "this very day being the youth of our future"!

Do you want to be buried or sprinkled?

tinkercreek comments on Jan 20, 2019:

Having worked for the state mortuary office several years ago, it pains me to see folks pour $$ into that industry out of guilt and/or ignorance. My kids know that I have no desire to take up ground space, and they can do what they wish with my cremains.

"Drama requires your participation to exist." Opinions invited.

tinkercreek comments on Jan 17, 2019:

Participation is fairly easy to avoid, but most drama seems to thrive more on attention. Learning to hold a pleasantly passive face and voice can go a long way toward extinguishing that drive to garner more attention!

Dating is harder after 50. Here's why.... [thepowerofsilence.co]

tinkercreek comments on Jan 17, 2019:

As emotive beings of any age, our inner state of longing for connection is often at odds with acquired wisdom, life experience, or any cerebral learnings. Having experienced education, marriage, child-rearing, career, dating, single-dom, grandchildren and various stages of serenity over a few decades I find it entertaining and often comical that some continue to run the relationship gambit well into their 70's. Every interaction is a fresh relationship. Each conversation is an open door to delights as yet unknown. Venturing out to any crowd presents a kaleidoscope of humanity and kindness waiting to be expressed. Holding expectation of singular recognition and recompense from another soul most often creates a damaging tension. My greatest learnings are in letting go, honoring myself, and finding the joy in others. My greatest efforts are in holding focus to do no harm. Wish me luck!