I created a dating profile about ten years ago. No pics . I saw a profile of a man similar. Pics were far away. Life did not serve me well by loving people that had handsome pic. I sent this mystery man an email. Weeks passed by with correspondence limited to email no picture. When we realized we were in close distance of each to a mutual library, we hid love notes in a book we designated in advance.
One day, I just slipped a note in the book he was to pick up at the library by 6. It merely said, if you finally want to meet the face behind the letter, I will be at Starbucks till 8.
I knew it was him even though I never saw him. If he had 4 eyes at that point, I was so wildly attracted to him appearance was not important.
He was the one...
We waste too much time living in the world of physical attraction
Mental attraction...oh yes..

I am initially attracted to humor, intelligence and a sense of joy. Alas, I am still in search of the holy grail...a man who really knows, accepts and loves all of himself. The dark and the light.

In art we appreciate the wholeness of an image before we try to appreciate the individual elements.

The ability to see Drumpf for the moron he is.

Intelligence and sense of humor. Then I fall in love with men who are also compassionate. I am the type that doesn't not need a gorgeous man. I have fallen for men who I would never have picked out as attractive, but their intelligence, sense of humor and personality was very attractive. I will say that I am not a big fan of big beards, and I like men who are clean and wholesome. Not into bad boys, drugs, motorcycles, or tatoos.

I can answer all 3 in one sentence. They don't run away...

I like real people who are intelligent and honest, not just full of bullshit and trying to fake it through with you. In that sentence I've eliminated over 95 % of everyone I know. Well, let's try wit and humor. Actually it varies with everyone.

Two of my wives were younger. Two were older. None of them were alike. One of them was black. I interacted with them openly as myself and I think they did the same with me. I'm not sure that I have a "type" unless it was someone from a movie. BTW, my ex from Kenya fits into that mold. She could have easily have been a model if not an actress.

I get along in a "live and let live" mode. My plan is I will be me, and you can be you.

I have weakness for men with a good sense of humor and quick wits. Also smart. Besides that I like people who are caring, considerate and open-minded. Physically, I like tall, but so far I've only ever dated men of average height, so even though I have a type, I can forget all about it if the right combination of the above characteristics is present.

They should be able to extensively quote both Wodehouse and Seinfeld, be ideally clean shaven, and have a nice set of collarbones. And a pulse. Oh, who am I kidding? Nobody is THAT picky.

They all matter. But the most important is mental. If I don't have a similar sense of humor and worldview as someone it's not going to get very far even if she's a supermodel.

Physically - Athletic physique. Big brown eyes. Handsome face.

Mentally - Intelligent. Not right wing. Honest.

Emotionally - Empathetic. Romantic.

A mad cat-lady life awaits.

sense of humor, kindness, curiosity

Physically? The guy has to have a bit of grit, has to be bigger and tougher than me. Otherwise some one healthy, I don't have one particular look. I am open minded
Mentally? Someone who is still learning trying new things, I have alway been drawn like a magnet toward highly talented men.
Emotionally? Someone who is self aware, kind, loving, mature.

Physically = a pretty face
Mentally = a sense of humor similar to mine, intelligence, knows the difference between there, they're, and their
Emotionally = compassionate, loving, stable

Physically... Can be all sorts of things, but I'm definitely into a nice bum.

Mentally... The smarter the better.

Emotionally... Just so long as someone is happy and likes themselves, I'm content.

Physically...Eyes and Voice

Mentally....Intelligence and Wit

Emotionally....Kindness and Empathy

Intelligence, curiosity, and an outgoing personality.

Intelligence with a sense of humor and honesty.

Someone who is incapable of dishonesty

High intellect. They seek the right answer, rather than seeking to be right. Happy personality, not moody. Attractive. Fit, health conscious.

Well, if it isn't their money, then it is all of the above.

I suppose physical attributes..."looks"...just get your attention. After that, I think a lot depends on there person's character, sense of humor, flexibility, being able to adapt to different situations, and emotional compatibility. Other things like being able to get along with ppl, not play games, having the same general values, and life style compatibility. If you're a neat person and he/she is a slob, ain't gonna work!?

I only respond to men who court me..I don't go out looking for them.

I look over the interested men and decide if they might more fun to be with than doing things alone, which is what I prefer. After a few dates, I can tell if I want to continue or not.

But there are MANY qualifications they must have first; must be educated, upper class Caucasian American, fit, active, intelligent, funny, well-traveled.

Deal breakers:

Men who play golf, fish or hunt, fanatically watch the NFL or NASCAR, eat junk food, prefer to lie in front of the TV drinking beer, don't read, don't know anything about countries outside the US, have a large dog that has the run of the house, is emotionally dependent on an ex or his mother, is unemployed, is overweight, is short.

His swag?

It's a combination of all 3. I know, for me, there has to be some physical attraction, or I just can't get into the relationship. A deeper attraction can develop over time...but there has to be at least some at the start. I will say what maintains my attraction in the long term the mental part. I have to be able to have a real, deep conversation, or what's the point? If they don't have good mental capacity, the chance for long term success is very low.