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I'm sitting here in front of my laptop recalling how, in my younger years, I'd have been absolutely mortified to be staying home on a Saturday night. Right at this time of night (8:30 P.M.), I'd have been hopping in the shower, then blow drying my then abundant hair and afterwards slapping on way too much cologne . . . Getting ready for a big night on the town. Now, some fifty years later, the idea of venturing out to a club or even to movie or show seems the antithesis of what brings me joy. Happiness is now a quiet evening in my jammies spent at home with those I love. So many things change as we age--some of the changes are good and, admittedly, some not so good. What has changed in your life that you embrace as a benefit of growing older?

RobLawrence 7 June 9
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11

Probably looking for love and never finding it, until I found myself! I have it right here with me, all the time!

Wise

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For the past couple years I've noticed that I really try to dig into a subject or headline. I am guilty of small judgements; it's easy in this Facebook headline world. I want to see both sides of the story now, even if I don't agree with it. I think in a way I'm searching for a reason to find empathy for them. Or just more to the story so I can make my own opinion of something. I see that as a benefit of growing older. I also have a lot more patience. Having a six year old will do that. 🙂

7

When younger these were so bad,
Now older, oh so nice!

  1. Naps
  2. Baths
  3. Alone time
  4. Learning things/school
  5. Reading
  6. Babysitting
  7. Dressing comfy
  8. with NO high heels
  9. Contemplating philosophy
  10. Celebrating unexpected moments

Y'all know there's lots more, but not having to list 'em is 11.

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I've been 70 for 28 years I guess lol

I was always an 'old' young person and now I am a very young 'older' person. 😀

@patchoullijulie my friend likes to go out and drink and go to loud clubs and I never even liked going to school events. I've admittedly gotten much worse since I've become an adult. Always a person who enjoyed quiet solidarity over noise and people. It's why I never meet anyone new lol

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You are not alone! I too used to go out all the time. I never do now. The thought of a hangover is not an option. A lot of my classmates still "party" and I just don't get it. Sadly, a lot of them have died from overdoses or alcoholism.

6

Wholeheartedly agree! Especially now most of those I have loved have gone before me, and those who remain are all too distant. I remember spending hours on the hair so that it looked as if it had been flicked with a brush before walking away, feeling that it was so important to the look. Oscar Wilde was so right when he said that youth is wasted on the young! 8)

StJohn Level 6 June 10, 2018

I totally agree...there was such a rush to "connect" in younger years. But once you move away you realize those connections were just gossamer threads - so easily broken. These days I think I want to "do things"....be with people....until I go and then all I want to do is go home. We get old to soon and smart too late..... 😉

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There is a pretty good band playing outside the RV, and I just wish they would stop so I can go to sleep.

6

Yes, I agree with your sentiments about in younger days thinking I should be out on the town on a Saturday night. No more... I can make myself happy right here at home.

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A benefit for me is that I am totally on board with being who I want to be and not having pretenses in order to impress others. And I am fine with allowing my multidimensional personality to be in the open. I dress however I feel like dressing, and I am not afraid of stating my opinion when asked

5

Ummm.... I don't have a van anymore?

4

I no longer worry if I'm not wearing make-up when someone rings the bell! I no longer care if I'm wearing "THE" hottest styles! I realize very well that my body will change and there's not a damned thing I can do about a lot of it. I'm much happier with myself (and my failings) and a lot easier on other people!

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Having learned so much and knowing that the Saturday night out was a rich experience suited to that time and that person. KNowing that striving does not bring the end game closer, but is part of the journey. Knowing that context is my way to recognise perceived successes and failures, and that those successes and failures are interchangeable as I grow in wisdom. Recognising that there is no success or failure, just steps along the way

4

Age has its rewards ?

@RobLawrence
Not having to worry about drunk drivers, perhaps ?

4

My bucket list

3

The satisfaction to see the lives that where on my hands once, are now running on thier own. That's the best way to enjoy the downhill until the end of the road, knowing they don't need me anymore.

3

I love that comment. You write well.

I'm the same. I realised I was getting too old for the night club scene when I found myself stifling yawns and missing my bed.

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You are a wise man. Congratulations.

3

It would be nice to go out once in awhile on Saturday night. I sort of miss that. So many changes in life. Some good, some not so good. I should have taken better care of myself. Now I really just enjoy my morning walk in the park.

I feel ya.

3

I am no longer ruled by my sex drive... oh who am I kidding...?

Are you dead?🙂

3

Not much...I had my disco nights in the 70s on my weekend off but I pretty much have been a workaholic , fulltime Mother and college student. Go to bed early wake up early...not much change but vocation....

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