Back in the day, post-divorce, I encountered this younger woman who I had become smitten with. Divorced, two young daughters. They are not what this is about.
What I'm talking about is something this young woman told me. She told me women, even when they are with-man, always keep another man on a string somewhere, on some level. Someone, if something happens to her main-man, she pulls on the string and he comes-a-runnin' or perhaps runs-a-cummin'. Could be both.
After our relationship seemed to have run it's course, she was moving from one place to another, and she gave me an item of furniture that she needed help with. She brought this guy from her apartment complex that was basically the person on the other end of the piece of furniture from me. In other words, I had one end, he had the other as we did her heavy lifting. Also, I was taking the piece of furniture off her hands. He and I were both on the end of that string she was talking about. Made a mental note to not do anymore of her bidding.
What I'm wondering is, how common is this? I know it's done. I saw her in operation. I'm pretty sure it depends on the level of "player" a woman is and her level of popularity. Is it true or not, or was it JUST true with this woman?
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Wow. I've never done this -- I believe that you don't even look around until you are officially out of a relationship. I also don't know any women who have done this. I mean, they might have, but knowing how strongly I feel about it, they probably wouldn't tell me.
ladyprof70
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June 10, 2018
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I had never noticed this happening. Then it came up during a conversation. Then I noticed this other guy helping her move stuff, and it hit me what was going on. Just what she was telling me. There were other things that bugged me about her so it didn't take much to cut it off.
This seems to be something a lot of men believe to be true of women. I'm sure there are some who can and do take advantage of men by playing them for fools that way. Not all women who could, do. I, for one, am more honorable than that. Now men, however.... I do know a man who has a different girl for each of his chores and tasks, and they all do their best trying to win his affection. I do know that not all men are like that.
Julie808
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June 10, 2018
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Not all women or all women are like that. But, it does go on. I had never noticed this previously. It depends on character of the individual. Or lack of character. I believe it's calling using and manipulating. Probably other words.
All I know is that years ago, I was single and met this lady (also with two kids) who, I was told by her ex boyfriend, was a barrel of fun (read between the lines folks) and that she was attracted to me. So we went out. First date, nice kiss, second date, can you cut my grass before we go out (nice kiss). Third date, can you trim my bushes and plant my flowers.....nice kiss. Fourth date, go over, guy is fixing her car in her driveway. We talk and he is in the same boat I am, plus there's a guy who is going to paint her room upstairs and one who is going to fix her plumbing. She comes out and asks me to cut her lawn.....lol. That lady had a lot of strings out......lol.....I begged off.
yamaha45701
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June 10, 2018
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Ugh....no kiss or sex is worth that blatant manipulation. Hope the lesson sticks with you.
@BlueWave To the contrary, I now own a landscaping company and try like heck to find a woman who needs to have her lawn mowed. Kidding aside, she was a lot of fun to just hang with, but with so many guys hovering around like flies (I was one of them for a few weeks), I could not see much of a future.
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