There is value and gracefulness in observing rituals as respect to people you love and who love you. I used to have a boss who was in the Roman Catholic tradition and he went to mass "for his mother." I suspected he might actually have been a non-believer of some sort but that he never bothered to go there because he was at a stage of attending "for his mother." Lost touch with him almost 30 years ago so I don't know how things evolved.

I'm a member of the Humanistic Jewish community and even a congregation. We do lots of things that have connections to the theistic/religious traditions and that look close enough to be recognized by other flavors of Jews--even as we do them in ways that we find meaningful--honoring community, culture, wisdom, tradition, values..without the theistic/religious beliefs from any period of our community's history--and yes, the theistic/religious beliefs and positions have changed. I'm fortunate and glad to have found a community that provides the connection and community within my tradition that I appreciate, separate from theology. Don't know that same is available within other traditions. BTW, many "raised Christians" find a home in Humanistic Judaism either through marriage/other family connections or through philosophical and cultural affinity...very little in a Jewish-related tradition is alienating to people of Christian and other backgrounds.

I was a practicing Catholic when we had our sons. They went through the Sacraments but did not want to be confirmed. I let them make their own decisions. They were not confirmed and do not practice any particular religion. I have not had the guts to discuss religion with them. They are now 29 and 30.