More often that not, this stems to be true. Their true colors come out in time.
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JacarC
Level 8
June 11, 2018
0
This has more to do with relationships than friends. It goes deeper on a level where you are close to someone for a period of time.
@mistymoon77 I was quoting Jim Rohn, philosopher.
And: the top post IS about friendships. How close the friend determines the feelings of "betrayal."
Well yeah, takes one to know one, isn't?
IamNobody
Level 8
June 11, 2018
0
or "think" they know one. Where the term gas lighting comes in.
And people who are untrustworthy often don't trust others. ---- that one doesn't always fit. It has been proven that people who trust unconditionally, get hurt over, and over and over and over.........
Dingodog
Level 7
June 11, 2018
2
Trust is something one earns in time. As with respect. One doesn't or shouldn't trust early on until they can prove and earn that trust.
@Stevil no its not. Trusting someone you don't even know is just plain stupid and then people wonder why they got screwed over. It takes time to develop that into any relationship.
I trust you are both correct.
@Stevil and you know how "faith" works. Kind of like trying to find a black cat in the dark. Good luck with that one.
@Stevil if that works for you, great but you are now comparing a monetary thing to human connection, two totally different things. You set yourself up for the fallout if they don't pay you back. Has nothing to do with the level of connection to that person for developing trust. Like mentioned earlier, if you get burned, you have no one to blame but yourself. Learning about someone's character takes time and that goes along with trust and respect, not like it always works but generally speaking, it develops over time.
@mistymoon77 I knew her for 15 years. We were close, went through a lot together. I'm still shocked. But yeah, as the bible says never be a lender or a borrower paraphrased.
"Avoid moody women," was on the long list the last man I dated. He listed what he wants in a woman. Often we strongly dislike personality traits in others that we don't like in ourselves.
On the fourth date, he acted moody, grumpy and distant all day.
"I refuse to be around a moody, grumpy person," I told him. "If you act this bad at the beginning of our relationship, how will you behave when we are more involved?" FLUSH.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
June 11, 2018
3
This statement almost completely describes the behavior of my first wife in our long marriage. I would only add that she also chose to turn most conversations into vicious, hurtful -- and senseless -- wars.This is why I have not spoken to her in almost 25 years.
wordywalt
Level 9
June 11, 2018
6
I found this to be true with my ex, accusing me of lying and cheating, boy-o-boy was she.
PickledRick
Level 8
June 11, 2018
3
As "Ella" already wrote, there is "some" truth to it. Just some. I bet many (or some) of us have "accused" [I don't like the verb] someone else of lying, or of cheating, without being ourselves liers nor cheaters.
COGITOERGOSUM
Level 6
June 11, 2018
3
Yep, there are times when the evidence of misdeeds is so overwhelming the even the most honest person would have to address the other's issues.
I think it is true as a whole. I also think many times it is because of their past that reflects forward. If it weren't for second chances we'd all be alone.
TerminalSunshine
Level 5
June 11, 2018
2
Yes, I have found this to be very true in my life's experiences.
AstralSmoke
Level 8
June 11, 2018
5
Every accusation is a confession.
davsmith4156
Level 5
June 11, 2018
6
I'd add a cravat to that Dave.
Generally, yes. Yet there are times when the evidence of misdeeds is so overwhelming the even the most honest person would have to address the other's issues.
It seems to be because that's how they really perceive the universe. They honestly can't imagine others not lying/cheating/etc,
njoy_life_2
Level 7
June 11, 2018
6
That is right. They do it, so they cannot imagine that others do not do it. My first wife viewed life as a bad soap opera.
And, of course, distance yourself from them. Pay no attention to them and leave the room unless they are being positive toward you.
birdingnut
Level 8
June 11, 2018
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