I think, there are nobody helped by your forgiving..there are you!

I think acceptance is the important key, at least for me. I can't forgive certain things, but I can accept them for what they are, learn from them, learn to let it go, and move forward...

I may forgive but I don't forget.

They only person being hurt by unforgivingness is the person who is holding onto to grudge. That other person is out there living their life and not losing a minute of sleep.

You are so right!!!! I have had people in my life that I will never forgive. The best I can do is not to give them any head space and live a happy life. I wish I could say karma will get them but it but I doubt it will. Some people are just unforgivable.

Let it go

I don’t know that I’ve actually forgiven anything just accepted what happened. I don’t forget. Forgetting can lead to more hurt.

If you don’t make negative judgments in the first place you won’t have to forgive. To forgive is to allow your mistaken judgments to be corrected so as to recognize the beauty and value of the person with whom you had a grievance.

I don't believe in forgiveness. At all. That's a complete load of sentimental bullshit.
You either get over whatever it is, or you don't.
There is no forgiveness.
Or forgetting.

Forgive and let go of it, is probably a better way to think about it. I don't forget. It would result in being taken advantage of more often than not. At the same time, I don't hold past transgressions against anyone. I'm in control of who I associate with (well, for the most part), and I simply disassociate from people who are chronically toxic or hateful toward me. That's not holding anything against them, it's just healthy interpersonal boundaries.