Today has been a super hard day for me. Today we finally sat down and talked about our marriage ending and what our next plans are. I've been struggling for so long with the marriage that I'm grateful there's finally an "it's over" moment but I'm still so sad. I don't want my home to change, but also, I can not live with him. Ugh... just a sucky sucky day.
I am sorry to hear it, remember to take care of yourself.
my heart goes out to you... message me if you need to talk or vent with someone that has been through this.
I truly feel for you. It always is a sucky day when that is the decision.
Did the same thing myself recently at her request and I just agreed to give her what she wanted and be done. Most thing I have ever done because it was not at all what I wanted but it was as being with someone who I couldn't seem to make happy. Sometimes you have to let go of the comfortable place to find what you need.
I still don't like it but I know that people rarely change and neither of us was happy as much as we thought we should be. She thought we could stay friends and I told her that really doesn't fit with me. I will always want her in ways friends just don't make the cut. We met this weekend after not seeing each other for 8+ months so I could take one of our dogs and she was really excited about it. I think she understands now how it is when you want something but know (or feel) it isn't right for you.
Anyway better and worse days are ahead. Remember you are a worthwhile person and deserve to be happy. Part of I stopped compromising as much in our marriage was I didn't feel there was any regard for how I felt and finally told myself I deserved more than that. Stick to being the best person you can be that day and be better tomorrow. Life will work out for you.
Believe in you and things will work out
@pepperjones Yeah I mean I know that it wasn't me making her unhappy but still her not being happy had to have something to do with me. I mean I was the biggest part of her life and her life wasn't what she wanted/needed to be happy so indirectly I can assume some of the responsibility. I wasn't going to change because I like me so just let it go. Maybe not one of my favorite of my favorite decisions but hopefully we both (and you) find the happiness we all deserve
Thank you.
New birth is rarely without pain. Its ok to grieve your loss; the time, the love, the perception of security. But try and keep it short- Focus on your new beginning and your independence. Don't be too keen to surrender it again; Enjoy who you are and take time to explore your new opportunities thoroughly.