I guess my preference would be for my wife to work. Not because I'm against her staying at home, just because when I get home from a bad day we can both rant about that one person who gets on our nerves at work and spend an hour validating each others extremely biased perspective of that one person who made a mildly snarky comment and probably meant nothing by it but they have horrible taste in music so they're dumb...sorry I'm single right now.

I don’t have a preference, because I don’t have a wife ????????, let alone a GF. I couldn’t say, but i’d probably let her do whatever she wants to do so long as things in life are going well and we are happy. As long as she is being productive in her life and pursuing a passion that she loves, and we are filling each others weaknesses like a team, and if the financial situation is good to go then I have no problems.

I believe women and men can be home makers if that couple wishes... we all have different aspirations.

May I take issue with something you've said? Raising children and caring for a home takes MANY SKILLS (not to mention multi-tasking!) So..please don't denigrate yourself for not working outside your home.

Love, Mom

I'm that way. I prefer to take care of things... But I will say that whoever I'm with has to uphold their end of the relationship. The last girl I was with I moved into my apartment, I bought all of her food, paid for her school, clothes, all the dates we went on, rent, everything. The only things she had to pay for was her car and cell phone. I was %100 fine with that arrangement. But after a while she started acting like she was taking it for granted. Always had attitude toward me, even when we were out somewhere and I had just spent like $200 on her that day. She didn't like to cuddle or have sex. Started talking to me like I was stupid or something. I'm not sure if she got a false sense of entitlement or what but ended up breaking up with her after about a year of that. If you're a giver in a relationship... you really need to be with another giver or you end up getting sucked dry emotionally. It's not about the money!

There’s no real reason y u can’t have both....distance learning study....be a housewife

I have been a house wife. I also have had a career.
Both were just as rewarding. You can reinvent yourself the sky's the limit.

Good God! (Yes, I know) is this the 21st century in the 'developed' world?

I believe that if a woman wants to work she can do whatever she wants. it is her choice. I believe that if they want to stay home and be a housewife that is fine too. Don't sell yourself short. You may not have discovered your skill and potential yet. The fact that you are a freethinker that has not followed the masses into a religious dogma, proves that your intelligence level is above many of the rest of society.

I've always been independent and career minded. Had a baby at 42 after raising 12 year old with cp. Worked part-time with baby. You could be a home health care worker-some agencies will pay for LNA -licensed nurse asst, you could work in a day care center-its easy to pick up skills. Have faith in yourself.

Use the right terms. What you are talking about is male domination, not "old-fashioned". I am 80 years old, and my wife and I both worked, and we have always shared decision-making and responsibilities.

There is some grace in knowing what you want.