If you don't know what it's like to be an introvert then you are being disrespectful to her. Maybe you should stop thinking about yourself all the time.

@Frankitty
That's a mean thing to say. What makes you think I don't have compassion for introverts? My daughter and her father are both introverts. This means they recharge their energy alone.

Like all personality traits, introversion is a range from mild to extreme. Claire and Terry are both a mix of introvert/extrovert, as am I. But I tend to be more extroverted. I recharge energy by connecting with people. Terry and Claire need quiet time alone, to renew their energy.

An artist, schoolteacher and public speaker, Terry feels exhausted and strung out from too much public speaking. Then Terry needs quiet time, alone in his art studio, painting and drawing.

@Frankitty

It is disrespectful to cancel plans at the last minute. Over the years, Claire has done this repeatedly to me and her father. This upsets us both.

"Do you cancel at the last minute with your friends, too?" I asked Claire.

Telling Claire how her behavior affects me is appropriate. Since Claire is 28, my options are:

1. Tell Claire how I feel.
2. Say what I want her to do instead.
3. Avoid making plans with Claire.
4. Say nothing. Silence gives tacit approval.