While it is difficult to be involved with humanity and not have some scars and baggage from the past, we make a choice on how it will affect our future relationships. Can't imagine asking a complete stranger into my bedroom, even if I were sleeping on the couch!! Good luck.

No matter how beautiful, smart or rich they are, somebody, somewhere is sick and tired of their shit.

Women love drama. Some men do, too, but not like women love it. Younger women love it just as much but you’re not hanging around them long enough to discover it. My theory is that they need things to have feelings about. Deep, conflicting, feelings that require much conversation with other women to figure out. That process is fun and social so they create drama. Men don’t like feelings a whole lot so we tend to make jokes and not be very deep.

You're both right and you're both wrong. She should not have pushed for so much before a first meeting, and you should not have put off telling her so. She's right that you blew her off, because sending a text takes seconds. And finally, you're right that something is off about this potential relationship. Her eagerness would be more understandable if you'd already met, but it's too much too soon. You're also right to have asked for a first meeting in neutral territory in a no pressure setting.

Yeah, that was off from the get go.
From facts presented she ignored your wish to meet first, before committing to long lets say exposure. Then boom your in bed, with no way out. On the other hand a more immediate reply could have avoided the whole thing. She would have felt rejected (never good) and ignored and not worthy of being a priority. Her feeling is she just laid down for you and you should have jumped on it. literally and figuratively. I understand you were.... floored by her directive. Instead of not replying I would have advised, whoa, slow down. I would like to meet for coffee first and press that. By not responding it implied compliance. Which then would have been followed with daily confirmations of how you can't wait for ... blah, blah, blah ..... Just my 2 cents as if watching a soap opera.

Perhaps you are simply a nice guy and needy women see that and want to get taken care of. You've realized that you don't want to spend all your spare energy, such as it is, on fixing other people. That may be all that it is.

Right now I'm still reeling from discovering my husband of 17 years spent the last year of it cheating on me. And I expect that to cause trust issues because of that. Betrayal is nasty and beyond painful because the victim knows it was deliberate. The only rule I ever gave him in our relationship was "Please end it before you cheat" and he couldn't even manage that one little thing for me. Was he lazy? Was he a coward? Was he just cruel? Perhaps all three. I do know that I definitely don't want to make any commitments of any kind, pertaining to relationships, until I have that understandable baggage under better control. So yeah, I don't know how I will navigate with my new suspicious nature, but I intend to move forward at my own pace and not be pushed.
What happened to old fashioned dating to get to know a person better? You know, neutral ground, coffee, maybe lunch if that went well, etc. What's with the spending a weekend in the master bedroom of somebody you have never met in person? I wouldn't have responded to that text, either, or if I had done so, it would have been with a "Hell no!" Just because I may not have as many years ahead of me as I did a few years ago does not mean I'm lonely or desperate enough to throw caution to the wind. Don't feel bad about refusing to be pushed in any direction.