Thanks for all the comments! I took a kid free Tuesday (that happened to coincide with a statewide vote on medical marijuana) and went to a watch party. Cant say I met anyone I'd add to my circle of friends but met some friends for the night anyway. Big boost to my feeling of well being and to my confidence. Guess this was my way of convincing myself to go out more.

Decisions, decisions. Thought this was very fitting to what you said here. Had to share.

Thanks! I was starting to think it was just me.. I have been alone for around ten years, almost dateless for the past two or three. Sex, forget about it! The few dates I've actually been on were one or two and done. I've come to the conclusion that I am going to be alone the rest of my life. I have friends, mostly female, but not dating. They call when they need my help with something, occasionally offer a meal. But either they are not people I would want to have a relationship with, people I had a relationship with that ended, or they have no interest in pursuing a relationship with me. Other than the total lack of a sex life, my puppy I got two years ago seems to fill a lot of the hole in my heart. I have never given up hope of meeting someone, but I sure have tampered my expectations. I don't hang out in bars, join clubs or spend much time in crowds, I think I have a little crowd phobia. Had some hopes when I found this site, but so far that hasn't been successful either.

The fact that I'm here on a Friday night, not out there should say much. Author of my own sorrow I am.

Gosh, this sounds so familiar. I could have written this post.

I'm exactly the same. Its actually frustrating for me as I find being socialable abit of a chore but like being around people. Its far easier to do your own thing at home but then I miss out on the social aspect of life and meeting people and relationships.
I do find meetup.com a useful site to meetup with people depending on interests like photgraphy and cycling for example.

I totally relate ! The problem with enjoying one's own company is that the blissful solitude is so damn seductive. Even when it's not quite so blissful and cheery, it's often still more serene than trying blend with others - even one other. And you can do it all exactly as you want, without explanation, compromise, having to dress or comb your hair, or brush off pet hairs, or eat like a civilized being, or shower even ! Ha.

If it wasn't for the fact that I'm a stage junkie thespian, and also like attending a weekly life drawing group, and do the gym daily, I could very effectively be an almost total, contented recluse ! Though I'll admit, the sex aspect can be felt lacking when in solitude ...

I'm sure no help in encouraging you to get out there - huh ?

Being single is certainly easier... nobody is the boss of me now, I can stay up until 4 in the morning if I want with all the lights on and the movies playing as loud as I like, eat or drink what I like, do what I want.

On the other hand, there are times I wish there were someone besides myself to share a witty observation with, or notice a piece of trivia. I miss cooking for another person, or sharing some take-out food. Going to dinner alone doesn't have the same frisson. So maybe it's worth the work to find the right person this time.

You know? This isn't criticism. Just a reflection on my own choices.

I'm in the same boat. But I've decided to remain single, at least for the foreseeable future. I'm just not ready yet.

Hi, Leatherwing, and welcome to the website,

Yeah, I've not bothered dating since my 2010 divorce because being single is too much fun.

This website has a bit of a learning curve so here is some information that might be helpful.

You earn website points, and help other members get to know you better, when you write an informational profile that includes your hobbies and interests, and answer all the profile questions, since that's the first place many people look when they see a new member.
You've already done some of this.

Also, the website uses your profile to find member matches, so the more details you include, the better the match.

Then you make comments and write your own posts to earn more points and privileges; for instance, at level two you can private email people. You get different perks with each level, and when you reach level eight you get an agnostic T-shirt.

To find members near you, click on the "Meet" button at the top of the page, then on "Members," and enter your preferred search parameters.
Or click on the "About" button at the top of the page to find links to FAQ or the website tutorial.
Click on the 'Meet" button to find member matches

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Next time Grandma asks....

Host a quilting club. Then the females will be in your living room.