You are so right. It happens to couples here.We have a unique opportunity to meet someone here - and see who they are interacting with others before you meet in person.
Make your lover/wife/husband his/her favorite meals all day,breakfast,lunch and dinner. Do the chores for them,the "Scut" jobs,toilet,bathroom maybe the laundry. Grocery shopping helps too,let your loved one relax and put their feet up,and you fight the traffic to and from.