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Gender differences.

Okay, there are differences between any two human beings.

Those differences can be set on the foundation of so many things.

But our stereotypes of gender difference? From my experience, it breaks down like this.

Men - physically stronger, stoic, less likely to share their emotions etc

Women - warm, loving, nurturing. Less quick to anger and natural peacemakers.

I have seen these stereotypes - and I stress stereotypes - reinforced and over turned so often.

My operating position is that we are all different. We discover each other as dire circumstance and fateful cock up provides. I know butch women and fey men. I know delicate women and men who could throw me through the pub window.

My point is this - the differences you may find with another human being may or may not derive from gender. That, in my opinion, is a gateway to generalisation.

Thoughts or observations?

Palindromeman 7 June 29
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I think it's time the human race grow and mature past any stereotypes - including gender specific ideas. Aside from the act of procreation, gender is irrelevant. (Science is on it's way of making it completely irrelevant.)
I know guys who cry, girls who fight and cuss, guys who feel pretty in a dress but could still take you down with one blow (read into that what you want.)
People show be taken for who they are, and what they do as an individual; not judged based on if they're acting according to archaic ideas of who they should be, or by some role dictated by what genitalia they happened to be born with.
Fads come an go. What once may have been considered a very masculine thing might one day be associated more with femininity (and vice versa) - case in point: high heeled shoes.

scurry Level 9 June 29, 2018
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Respect.

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I agree.

I've known some butch lesbians, who've been more masculine than some of my male friends. There are general predictable patterns to be found but there are also overlaps. And none of us is 100% male or female. If we were all 100% one or the other, then we wouldn't be able to relate to each other.

I believe misogyny is taught.

Indeed; misogyny can be very cultural (without calling out any particular cultures).

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Boys are born with XY chromosomes in every cell, and their bodies develop in a number of ways associated with masculinity. They are different than girls and there is no way to change that.

I know that a rare few individuals are born with attributes of both sexes, and they deserve our full respect and empathy. But in general I think that it is better for each gender to celebrate the way they were born and to make the most out of it—play the hands they were dealt as they see it.

Bodies are just bodies. IMO our higher and truer selves are not physical bodies. At that level there is no male vs female. There is only pure awareness.

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Interesting article.

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There is hardly anything anymore that we can use to define us. I think this is what scares a lot of conservative or closed minded people...they want more hard lines drawn to be able to easily peg people into what they know as "gender" traits, etc. The idea that we are in effect, neutralizing the genders is scary, but in my mind, it is freeing to not be bound by such conventional thought of what traits belong to what sex. Viva la difference no longer applies in so many cases as you have pointed out.

Exactamundo. The boundaries of what is male and female, and other is fluid. 'Conventional wisdom' says otherwise. It is wrong.

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I believe that we all have aspects of both genders within us. But we're socialized to believe that boys should be one way and girls should be another. So, a boy who may be quieter and more sensitive is labeled a "sissy" or effeminate and told to "man up," while a girl who may be tougher and more outspoken may be told she's "bossy" and should tone it down and be "nicer." It really screws with your head if you don't fit into the "norm."

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Well yeah, those generalizations about men and women are just averages over a large number of individuals. People really need to understand how to use an average quantity. For example in a Classical ideal (non-interacting) gas, the temperature is an important quantity which basically tells you the average kinetic energy of the particles (this isn’t an exact definition of temperature, but it fits for a classical gas). However, this is meaningless if you only care about a small number of particles or a single particle: tenperature is no longer a well defined quality. You have to delve into the world of quantum mechanics to talk about just a few particles interacting and there is a lot of nuance to these interactions. Quantum particles are simple: humans are way more complex so I can’t even begin to imagine how much more complex the interactions between humans are. So yeah don’t apply averages to describe an individual unless you trying to compare their actions/performance to others.

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Sounds about right.

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I love the fact there are people out there that don't go by what is betten their legs. If the individual is attracted to the same sex or gender fluid or whatever this person identify as, good for them. I am happy for that person.

Yes, indeed. Love knows no boundaries. If you find love, hold it close and don't let go. And, yes, I am romantic at heart.

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