It's a bittersweet day. My husband is renting out our travel trailer to someone... because of the divorce, it's probably the last time ill set foot in it. I had to clean it last night and get all our stuff out of it then I made my boys come in for one last game night. We took the trailer out several times but after a while my husband stopped coming with me and the boys... it was hard to do all the set up and pack up myself and we haven't used it in a year. It's sad to see the decline, its sad that the hope is completely gone. I know I'm in for better things, I know I asked for the divorce, it's just sad is all.
Damn.... I hate to go through divorces. I'm a 2 time vetern. Had the camper too...
@pepperjones. Its sad pepper....
Sorry, breaking up is hard to do. Hard to stay focused, hard to stay peaceful, kind or especially in a loving place with someone you’ve invested a lot of time love & energy in.
I know. It can be important and agreeable & for the best , but it’s a lot of emotional work.
Working on possibly similar issues with my best friend of eight years.
So, hugs.
Divorce... the final frontier... wishing you the best of future in your new life. I let my wife had everything, including the house we built together from scratch. She sold it about 3-4 weeks ago. There was a moment I thought about buying it myself but I don't like the city where the house is so being a gypsy as I am... I needed no anchor for this vessel. All my life been comfortable letting go. Even 19 years of marriage... were buried.
@pepperjones Wishing you the very best... I remember thinking about declining my military pension so she wouldn't get half but one of my bosses explained to me that 50 percent of something is more and better than 100 percent of nothing. Never heard a better advice in my life. Besides would had been taking money away from my kids. Now that is our joke... she need to keep me alive to get that half and I needed her to die so I can get that half. We got that kind of civil relation... you are free to move on and start all over again maybe this this time on the greatest joyride of your life. Good luck and never give up hope... don't let it go ugly!
there is always cabin rentals
@pepperjones we see to do the locherie cabins at Lake Quinault over on the Olympic pennissula in the summer. Always a cool camp out
@pepperjones love that part of the counrty
The bright side? You have some fantastic memories. ❤
Letting go is difficulty, and is rarely a "rip off the bandaid" process, but instead a slow one - at least in my experience. I was reflecting with a friend just today that there is a probably still a part of me in there somewhere that is still attached, at some small level, to my ex-wife who I haven't spoken to in years. I think when you love someone, a part of you is always going remain attached, even if it doesn't make sense to be together any longer. I sometimes think of the detaching process as being like a thick rope, where the thread pop one by one. Each time one pops, it stings a little bit.
This is a great analogy!
I hope that you feel better soon.
@pepperjones Glad to hear that. I hope the rest of your day is great!
@pepperjones I will, thank you. Same to you!
Sorry about your trailer
@pepperjones it's all I've been thinking about
Went to the local Music Festival here and encountered two old band mates I had not seen in years. One was married and doing well much to my surprise, the other was getting a divorce and was miserable to say the least. He had caused it and acknowledged it as such. As a musician I've met countless divorced people, some I knew, most I did not. All had a sense of sadness about them but most were out to meet someone else and carry on. Having said that it's better than the hell my one set of grandparents lived with, even as a toddler I could sense the hatred in the air. Same for my parents, they would not have lasted a year in modern times. Very sad, but still better to move on.
Change is often hard, we seek stability out of instinct if nothing else. Getting past feelings of personal failure took me a long time after I got divorced, one assumes that if they had just done something better, tried harder perhaps then it wouldn't have happened but that's a lie we tell ourselves, things change, people change and the person you are perfect with in your 20's is the person holding you back or crushing your sense of self worth in your 30's. Ride it out, try to remember the good and learn from the bad rather than forget it, it's all part of being a whole person and a happy one. I probably should sell the Winnebago we toured all over Mexico in for 2 years, it's just gathering dust in the back corner of the property.
@pepperjones Sounds like you're ahead of where I was when I was there myself. One less thing to deal with and there sure is a lot to deal with, especially with kids.