What kind of bullshit happened on here yesterday? Someone told my friend to go get raped? Who ever did that, really should be banned from this site. How misconstrued. A Issue is brought up about how rape and abuse is not a gender exclusive problem. How obvious it is that the male gender have kept their trauma hidden, how because of this, misconceptions have developed. That's the whole bloody point of the film. Then? a male person has the courage to dialogue and gets attacked by a crazy most likely damaged chick. Some apologizing needs to be done.That ain't cool, not one little bit!

Wow. Speechless and in tears.

I believe Dylan Farrow.

Is it wrong that it makes me sad that these men receive nothing but support for telling their stories? I'm seriously considering celebrating that this August it will be 25 years since the last time I was raped (not the first time, but the last, mind you). I would have loved to have experienced this kind of acceptance when I told my story. Instead, I was blamed, so I stopped talking about it, except in therapy.

Bawling like a baby at work. Thanks for this.

good post It is overwhelmingly pervasive

Your trust and love for the abuser is violated,making you "Gun shy" at the next Man who offers support,and eventual love for you,a barrier has been erected, from behind you view the world with suspicion,hoping one day it will come down....

Thank you for posting it.

After two years, I left my first husband who sexually and emotionally abused me. I went into therapy to heal from the pain of being physically hurt by the man I loved. No one will ever hurt me that way again.

Tim, a medical doctor, pursued me for four years after our divorce.

"Why do you keep pursuing me?" I asked Tim. "You know I will never go back with you."

"Kathleen, to give up would force me to accept that I sexually abused my wife," Tim replied.

Two years after the divorce, Tim stopped by to wish me and my mother "Merry Christmas." When I hugged Tim goodbye, I felt hollow and shaky for days afterward.

"This is a normal feeling when you touch your abuser again," my counselor said.

I applaud these women for telling their stories. And feel amazed by the woman's strength, to actually hug and touch the men who raped them. To me, it appears they felt pressured to act forgiving in front of the camera.

The fact that the women shook hands and even hugged their rapist on camera DOES NOT make these rapists and child molesters okay.

Raping or sexually abusing a girl or women is cruel, violent and reprehensible. These men belong in jail.

For at least the last 25 years, I have not dated a lady who has not been either molested, sexually abused, or raped at least once in their life time. Including my ex-wife who was molested as a child and raped as an adult before we met. I witnessed first hand her pain, her PTSD and the problems she experienced in our relationship because of her previous experiences.