I see more posts on dating sites for hookups than for dating. I get the 'I've been married for twenty or thirty something years and my wife and I aren't having sex anymore' thing. But, ya know, there are some of us that are looking for a relationship. Sigh.
I stop looking. I'm not wasting my time. I'm sure their are great humans out there who really want to work on a life long sexual friendship...but I haven't found them.
Though not averse to a hook-up, human touch is much missed, I'm, along with a lot of the guys, are sincerely looking for at least friendship/dating with hopes that it matures into a long-term relationship. Quite often distance is the killer on this site. Hang in there, there have been successes on this site, tho it is so much more than just a dating site!
If they admit to that before the first date - it's probably a good thing. Even if it's disheartening.
I had a woman in a business suit put such a question to me in a bar when I was in my 20's, actually it was more of a statement. She looked me up and down and said "You'll do, let's go back to my place", it was direct, honest and impersonal. I told her thank you but no I was married and not interested. She cocked an eyebrow at me as if disappointed in me and her judgement of my character, said "Fine, your loss" and walked away. A very attractive woman, friends told me she was a high powered lawyer in a prestigious firm down town, apparently she was used to getting what she wanted, she left with some guy in a baseball jacket about an hour later.
Ha ha! I love that anecdote. She sounded obnoxious.
@Surfpirate I just looked at your age - because that was a very 80's thing. lol
Though I imagine it may have caught on.
People who just want to pick someone up and never have anything to do with them again after that one night.
It's a nice anecdote. Nicer because you didn't say yes!
I’m looking for extra marital sex because I”m a cheating SOB! .......Now how would that sound on a dating site? How gullible do they think women are? Well, we are not all the sharpest tool in the toolbox I suppose and then there are women who just want sex too, so it would be simpler to just say so.
I've known two men who simply walked up to women randomly and asked them if they were interested in sleeping with them, they had a fairly high rate of success. Clearly for some people it isn't the issue that is for others.
It's a weird new world
not really new at all
@evergreen new for someone like me. ... let's say I'm not in the game
@Bigwavedave one needs only to observe, not necessarily "play"