My need to understand and patience. Might sound nice, but I've managed to weaponize both! ?
I would say this is true for me. I’ve been up and I’ve been down, and I like being up much better!
I think that is true for most of us.
This does define me, however, so does my sense of justice and my sense of humour. But the biggest definer is my sense of wonder I feel towards the world and the universe.
Constantly working on the 'patience' part. As one ages, different things push our buttons, at least in my experience. Things that used to make me crazy, I can now live with; other things that never bothered me previously, now get on my nerves. More work to do.
And how you treat the waiter.
That is the great definer I see in others.