Does the woman have to do ten mile hikes with you? Is that a deal-breaker? I'm always curious as to why guys (in my limited experience, it's usually men, but that's a gross over-generalization) want a woman to do EVERYTHING with them. If you like hiking but she doesn't, is that okay? I remember reading a story somewhere about a guy who was into gaming and wanted a girlfriend to sit by him on the couch while he stared at the TV and fiddled with the controller. And I thought, "Huh?" Why expect a woman to sit next to you if you are not even talking to one another?

@citronella I wouldn't date a woman who wants to do EVERYTHING with me. Fitness is a major part of my life, she wouldn't have to be as into fitness as I am but she'd have to be fit.

One couple I'm friends with, she's a phenomenal marathoner. He'll never run a marathon but runs with her every week, supports her during marathons and runs a few short races every year. That's a reasonable compromise.

My ex wife was a sports fan, the only time I had cable TV was so she could watch sports. I learned a lot from her, but I usually I read until the highlights. I read nerdy things, she'd read 2-3 books with me every year and listen if I thought something interested her but she had no interest in most of my reading. LOL, I am a nerdy athlete who doesn't know how to spell NFL.

Life and relationships require compromise. Rigid people aren't fun to be around and rarely like themselves.

@educatedredneck I understand what you are saying. But as a woman who is plus sized, I think there are better ways to phrase what you’re looking for. Weight is a very sensitive subject for many women and I would challenge you to choose your words carefully.

We all have body types we are drawn to and that’s ok. Just be careful how you word it so as to not come off as superficial. Besides, if a fat chick such as myself indicates interest, you can just ignore the message or swipe. Much less offensive than saying up front you aren’t interested in BBW/curvy/etc.

@educatedredneck I know you were just talking to us here and wouldn’t put the quotes below (or I assume you wouldn’t) in an actual profile. I apologize if it seemed like I was accusing you of that. I just was trying to say to choose your words wisely.

I won't date a woman whose idea of working out is to socialize for thirty minutes at the gym then eats an entire pizza with a huge dessert.

...I don’t want crappy food in my house all the time.

@Marcie1974 I didn't say anything about weight, not trying to be antagonistic it seems like you're reading things into my comments that simply aren't there.

Skinny people can live on cookies, ice cream and many heavier people don't eat much crappy food. There's a connection between weight and diet for everyone, but it's not 1-1.

I wouldn't date a woman w a six pack sexy stomach who eats crap and couldn't do a 5 mile hike. I have dated women who have a "spare tire" if they're active and my biggest turn-on is women who like to read and talk nerdy.

If an active, heavier woman is nerdy my only issue w her weight would be what any medical doctor might would say depending on her overall health. Obesity has a direct link to arthritis heart disease, some links w diabetes....slender people with horrible nutrition are also more prone to various health issues. My objections all center around health, maximizing life options into our senior years ie purely factual and practical issues. A woman who cannot have factual discussions on almost all topics is an even bigger red flag than a (slender or obese) woman who eats a bag of chips and a carton of ice cream every night.

Does that clarify anything?

@educatedredneck you hit the nail on the head when you said I’m reading into things. That’s what a lot of women do....we read into things. (Don’t tell anyone I disclosed that female secret ?)

You seem a little defensive and I apologize if I’m coming off like im attacking you. Basically what im trying to say is, because women read into things that often aren’t meant negatively, choose your words carefully when crafting your profile. Whether here or any dating app. Because we will read into things that you don’t necessarily mean.

Does that make sense?

@Marcie1974 I know some women read into things and I tend to date athletic women plus very assertive women. Maybe the women I date and my bossy sister have spoiled me bc they don't read things into what's stated as much

@educatedredneck I’m totally sure dating assertive women makes a huge difference!! I’m super not assertive so that’s part of my issue(s)