I've been thinking about this. I don't get approached often, but I always assume I am safe until I have reason to think otherwise. I assume they are neurotypical, again, unless they act otherwise. I assume the conversation will be pleasant and playful because they are talking to me, and with 20 years of experience interacting with strangers, I can be pleasant and playful in my sleep. I can create spaces for you to introduce yourself, I can open doors to flirting. But that's as far as it ever goes. Maybe that's because I don't allow myself to even consider whether or not I find them attractive. I'm not looking. Maybe they can smell that.

Damn, I think more like a dude!

Yeah that's pretty insightful, although I think it's less about inherent gender differences than about male privilege. Though both are in the mix.

What I learned though is initial sexual chemistry is a poor predictor of the overall quality of a relationship. Women will not be sexual for any sustainable length of time if they don't feel connected. So if it's great sex you're after, you'd better learn to relate and to practice all forms of intimacy, not just sex.

If that male thought process is true for a majority of men, that's a shame, I know it's not for me, sanity comes first in my book, I guess that's why none of my relationships have lasted cause women are paranoid af cause the rest of you act like a bunch of walking dicks lol

I really like and appreciate that you used 'typical' in your statement. I've never considered myself a typical male, but I can admit to having been the male @birdingnut speaks of at one time. Now though I have to feel safe first before I consider someone. I may be drawn in by the picture as @recluse discusses its rather natural, but for me they have to have a good written profile as well. I'm done having kids and cannot deal with dating "kids" anymore.

I'm actually to a point where I'm literally afraid to meet anyone. So I understand where your friend come from, I understand I'm a male and can't fully understand, but I can epathize.

Fertilizing an egg is easy. You could literally do it every single day. As a man, your natural purpose is to generate and protect as many offspring as you can. Bearing children is difficult, time-consuming, and potentially life-threatening. As a woman, your natural purpose is to weed out the losers and bear the most mentally and physically strong offspring you can with the time you've got. When you remove emotion from the equation and think about things rationally, our behavior makes a lot more sense.

I think of men as giant male organs with legs, with large bellies.
Sex and food. I think food might come first, even.

On dating sites, they mostly look at photos of women and choose mates that way..the youngest and hottest possible; zero interest in the woman as a person.

Non-threatening, normal but still interesting, and sexy.

I'm going to need a venn diagram app?