There is fire for a while, until fuel is consumed and the only thing left is ashes. That's the course of life. Some keep the fire running longer. Once it's gone, some are lucky enough to fill that void with treasured memories. Every story is a different book

Never assume something negative as the first response, especially with people you care about and want to maintain a good relationship with.

If one person is dis-satisfied with their sex life, it's a problem for both people and the relationship as a whole.

I'd guess most of us have had sex with someone we cared about when we weren't really in the mood but bc they wanted to and we want to please them. It's not an onerous chore and connecting with someone we care about is good no matter what.

When men say that about their wives/girlfriends I always wonder what things they did to piss their women off so badly they refuse to bleep them anymore.
I had to be on the ceiling angry, or sick to say no. I was rarely angry to the point of withholding, and think the one time I was not feeling well AND MAD. LOL

I once thought my husband was a gay on the down low. He still might be, but also slept with every married woman he could seduce. He also paid more attention and showed more admiration for the women's husbands than for the women. He always acted like he had "man crushes" them.

He probably preferred married women for affairs so he wouldn't be expected to support them.

I thought I was asexual for a long time. I wasn't, I was just not interested in sex with my husband. I never cheated on him, but the relationship was dead long before it was over and lack of sex was a huge red flag/symptom.

Not sure exactly what the question is. Why would anyone assume that the reason someone is not interested in sex is because they're having it with someone else?? That actually strikes me as the least likely explanation.