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Do you ever feel that no one "gets" you? Sometimes I feel like I shape shift so much, I almost don't get myself.

Alimacbean 7 July 18
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Yup . It's something to do with everyone having a different perspective of you because they are all different. People treat you different according to situations work , family etc then how they are feeling at that moment . Not even you know who you are for the same reasons

Simon1 Level 7 July 19, 2018

"situational ethics."

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Yep

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Literally all the time. I usually feel out of place with almost anyone or any group. It's depressing. No close friends, family isn't close to me except my brother, and no romantic interests. Fun stuff that.

Totally understand.

@Alimacbean There's also the fact that my reputation is the preacher of my family and I no longer believe.

@xpathskeptic Oh man...

@Alimacbean And they don't know that. Haven't told them I consider myself atheist. All hell would break loose with them. No pun intended.

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My problem is the flipside. I always roll my eyes. So no asked my take on any subject. My life is very quiet.

Mokvon Level 8 July 19, 2018
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In college, one of the teachers was never waited on in front of any of us, over 5 years.
It was eerie.
The point is, enjoy your anonymity. You may get famous. You will cherish you have memories of reality.

JacarC Level 8 July 19, 2018
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Feeling more often, don't seem to belong... anywhere.

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I think you really have to spend a lot of time and have a very honest realationship, lover, friend, male, or female, to get each other. So most people don't get you, me or anyone else, and there is no reason they should. IMO

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Only on days that end in "y."

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A few get me, very few.

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Yeah, particularly when no one’s trying to. Ditto to the next two replies...

I no longer see the replies i was ditto’ing btw lol.

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Often I feel that I am, among people, an acquired taste. I'm pretty up front about my peccadilloes once I feel comfortable around someone. It's occasionally frustrating, especially concerning my romantic "dry spells," which tend to last a while. While I believe I'm socially adept, I'll admit I can be weird... yet still accessible... I hope...

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sure, I'm human...

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I can definitely relate to that.

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In the early 18 hundreds the well known Woman Intellectual/Feminist Margaret Fuller complained about the same thing. She even puzzled the famous Ralph Waldo Emerson

Interesting

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the good thing about what you are experiencing is it will be an AWESOME moment when someone will get you. This has happen to me only a couple of times to date. That person becomes your instant bff. I understand what you are saying.

Lukian Level 8 July 19, 2018

Yes!

@Alimacbean Pointers: indulge in the activities that feed your quirkiness as much as you can. Practice on your small talk and don't be afraid to pass a moderate quirky comment above someone's shoulder. If all else fails, try it drunk (wink) ...(come to think of it, no don't)... (unless bars is your quirky activity) ... (then that would be okay)....

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This is the problem of our generation. Too much proclaimed of self identity in one hand and on the other hand the impatience of others which generates the fear that I will fail to communicate properly.

IAS1 Level 5 July 19, 2018
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We find our tribe.

Or we don't... ?

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I identified so strongly with this it felt self defeating. My personality, my style, my walk, my voice, and just my existence either lifts people in a super positive way or irritates people to another level. I've been called humble, smart, mature, old spirited, and hardworking at my current job by 50% of my coworkers. The other 50% say I'm arrogant, an ass, lazy, and immature. It just seems like either I put off a really confusing vibe, I act differently around certain personality types, or people are just going to feel a certain kind of way. I feel like I'm a solid blend of both sides perception, but the fact that I can't seem to change either sides mind Al's nauseated me with thought in hopes of appeasing the masses. But mostly I go with a "meh" approach to people's opinions. As long as my internals are happy thats what's best for me.

Agreed!

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Are you folks not being clear about your intentions when you interact with people? Are you being guarded? Are you obfuscating? All the women I im or talk with "get me" right off the bat. Some say no and some say yes but they all "get me".

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i wonder what the 'c' is for ! C:

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Literally all the time. I usually feel out of place with almost anyone or any group. It's depressing. No close friends, family isn't close to me except my brother, and no romantic interests. Fun stuff that.

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Yes.

Gohan Level 7 July 19, 2018
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You need to take a step back and listen to yourself more.

I don't try to be anyone other than myself, but different aspects of me come out in different areas of my life.

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That's pretty much anyone. We are all just ourselves, and the only ones to understand us.
But also most of us settle for a few friendly types willing to hang with us anyway.

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