If accidental pregnancy and STD's weren't a factor anymore, in what ways, if any, would that change how you approach life and sex?
Yeah I'd probably stop wearing condoms, to be honest. However, I dunno how I'm gonna poke her backside without a condom, but it's not like I plan this sh%t anyway.
In fact, maybe she'll not have washed back there, and I won't have to worry about poking her back there to begin with, just like pretty much all of the other times.
No condoms would be nice, there wouldn't be any paranoia from my partner that I would have to deal with either..
But I am still very selective about who I open up (emotionally and sexually) to. I have been emotionally and physically compromised when it comes to sex.
None at all...No one wants to fuck a dying old woman.
Truth be told I suspect that a lot of our baroque reasons for putting sex on such a pedestal has to do exactly with the associated risks. If people could truly screw like rabbits, I think they'd be inherently a lot less prudish and a lot less romantic, and they'd take themselves and their sex lives a lot less seriously.
Good response. Why is sex so difficult to talk about. I think that damaged my marriage that we found it difficult to be open about it.
That's an interesting perspective.
I don't know that I could consider myself prudish, at all, but I've always been very selective.
That's because I want the experiences to be great, which involves more than the physical aspect. If it were just about the friction, it would be satisfying enough to do alone.
Romance aside, if you really like someone, it makes sex (for me) so much more enjoyable. I think the distinction can be made between avoiding sex because of hang ups, versus saving it for a person/people you're into enough that more enticing adventures await.
@Athena Despite what I said above ... I have never been any good at casual sex; I have to care about the person and there has to be space for connection. I just don't know anymore if that's really been a virtue or not, to have so much at stake all the time when it comes to sex. A great deal of stuff connected to my love life seems to have been messed up, often as not, by caring too hard and trying too much. The stuff in my life that has Just Worked, organically and reliably, has been the stuff that I wasn't that invested in, one way or the other, to begin with.
It's just a theoretical question at this point ... the answer, if there even is one, doesn't really matter anymore.
None. I don't do casual sex because I don't want to, not for some other reason.
Goodbye condoms! I love skin-to-skin contact. Yum.