WHY? The religious work dealio with the god is never done or completed... is like shit, no matter how much you crap there will still be shit tomorrow.

I am so sorry to hear of your situation. As a mother of 5 children and a great-g- grandmother, I would curtail all but what is absolutely necessary for your child! A stressed out parent is harmful to a young child (even when we can’t help it). Your child is being imprinted, by your actions, good and bad! It is not wise enough yet, to separate good actions out of the stress or to know that this is about my parents problem and I don’t need to worry! Your child’s, brain is being developed with what it is being exposed to, now! Save your energy for relating to your child, as in reading, walks and even the chores a family has. Hopefully your spouse’s condition will improve, very soon! And, less stress helps everyone! Keep it simple, if you break...no one will win! Make an adventure out of where you live, hopefully there are a few interesting things, that you as a family can explore! At least nature! Good luck.

Do any of the neighbors have kids in her grade that could give her a ride or help out with school stuff. Check with the school and the PTA/PTO

depending on where you are there are different resources. meals on wheels is pretty much run by the churches but is non religious and doesn't require being a part of a church. My parents home town, they have transportation assistance run by multiple churches in town. The churches oversee it, volunteers don't have to be associated with any of the churches and people utilizing the service don't have to be members of any churches. Check with social services in whatever county you're in for resources.

Is there a Unitarian church? I have never been to one, but I've heard they aren't dogmatic.

sounds shitty dude hope things change for the better for you and your family