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It's the 24th of July 2018.

It would have been our 26th wedding anniversary - we separated in December 2016.

I've covered a lot of ground since then, but this is two years running now that 24 July has mugged me. A black dog day.

It sucks. It sucks so hard it could suck a golf ball through a hose.

I'm not looking for pity; just wanted to share.

Palindromeman 7 July 23
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Cancer; The cruelest disease there ever is,taking our loved ones away,on initial diagnosis,the hope not for a cure,but a remission(not active),so the Radiation first for those in the head,later the Chemotherapy,and the scans, to see if there's any change,and the blood transfusions as the chemo drugs affect the white and red blood cells so much. When the Doctors say "We cannot do any more for you" is the worst news you can possibly get,what they said is " Go home and die".............

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I don't know if a death,separation, or divorce, have the same level of hurt and emptyness. To have another loving person in your life,suddenly not be there,creates a huge void,it's very difficult to put into words the feeling. In my case,lost wife of 27 years to cancer 10 months ago(Sept.13,2017),never been married before,I enjoyed our marriage until her cancer struck,from diagnosis to her death,13 months..... So we are bent, but not broken,going through as best we can,slowly,haltingly,but moving on.....

Eloquently put. You have described my mind set precisely. I wish you well in your journey.

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I’m sorry. We all grieve at different paces. It DOES get better with time. Of course you never forget, but the memories get softer and less intensely painful. Sending you a soothing hug.

Thank you. It's a spider climb - you get up some way, and then fall back down again.

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Does it suck because you miss them or is there another reason? I know on the 1st anniversary of the breakup of my 17 yr relationship, I felt like a fool for wasting years trying to fix something I knew was a lost cause but I believed he was willing to try. I was wrong. After I accepted that, the lost time, wasted emotional investment & all, it got a ton easier to move on.

I miss the life we had together. She and I agreed we would still take a bullet for each other, just that we cannot be together anymore. I don't regret the 24 and a half years we were married; I just wish we could have made it work. And believe me, in that last 18 months we both tried so hard. The metaphor I like is that we were two boxers in a bout, and in the 24th round we were both exhausted and called it a day.

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