I could use some advice, humans. How do you handle a passive aggressive co-worker? I used to like my job until this person started subjecting me to this. I suspect she has a personality disorder, because she excels at charming our bosses, and I'm honestly worried she could poison their minds against me and cost me my job.
I have tried ignoring it for about 6 months, but I finally decided to tell my boss it was going on. I don't really thinks he's going to do anything, tho. Suggestions?
Changing jobs might be better in the long run. If that's not feasible, track everything you do. Get everything from the p-a person in writing. If she won't put things in writing, echo verbal requests in e-mail such as, "As per your <phone call, verbal request, etc.> this is what I believe you need me to accomplish by <date>. Please let me know by <date> if this is incorrect or if I have missed anything otherwise, I will begin immediately".
DO NOT feel badly about leaving on time - that is your right. Your child needs you and will be in your life long after this job is dust in the wind.
We had a meeting yesterday where she made herself out to be employee of the year and questioned my work ethic. She suggested that because I leave on time everyday I'm not dedicated. I have a kid with chronic illness, which is why I leave on time. Boss said nothing. HR is my next stop.
It's hard to deal with passive-aggressive as they are not overt in their actions. Try sarcasm every time they passive -agrees at you. Let them know you know what they doing. If they areally undercutting you with your boss and your being nice, then she's,winning and you're getting nothing out of it. Call her on her shit.
I left a job like that. The perpetrator was the boss's son. The boss knew what was going on but seriously, who was he going to stand by?
I actually still have a business relationship with my old boss through my new job. We get along great. And I don't have to deal with the son. And I still get to stay in touch with my old coworkers occasionally. It's all good.
If you have to stay, and the boss doesn't do anything, you may have to just suck it up. With some types of people you are simply in a lose-lose situation.
I don't know. I had that happen a few years ago, when a jealous co-worker began blaming his own mistakes on me to the boss, so I changed jobs. I was MUCH happier and it was a better job, in a better location.