A woman changing her surname 2 her husband's after marriage; is it constitutional, religious, traditional or just a belief?
this practice is no longer done in Québec (or very difficult to do). Women keep their original name. It streamlines government paperwork, medical, education and tons more stuff. You can hyphenate the children's surname but it gets complicated after 2 generations.
Another point to know here: Religious marriages are no longer recognized legally (as part of the official record). To be registered as married you must get married in court.
Why should a woman lose her identity after marriage?
It is just a tradition. I have been married twice and did not change my name either times. I wonder if that was why it did not last?
It was my father who insisted that I not change my name. He said a woman should not lose her identity just because she gets married. If I get married again, I’ll make the same choice.
I have my own name and didn’t change it for a marriage. I think the whole name change thing is sexist and outdated.
Traditional with religious overtones. I, personally, think the couple should decide together on a new last name
Or we should go back to ancient Norse last names.
To me it seemed like if you change your name, people make the assumption that you are a tradionalist. If you keep your name, people assume you're a man-hater who keeps her husband on a leash. Neither applied to me, so I made the very scientific decision to pick the name that sounded prettier, which was mine. His last named, when spoken, was harsh, and vaguely reminded me of a cat horking on the floor.
Traditional. In some cultures it’s the female line that carries the family name. Of course that’s a different issue. Should the children be given their father’s last name or their mother’s? Or maybe neither, or some combination of both? Girls could have the maternal name and boys the paternal. Offhand I like that idea, which just popped into my head.
In thoise cultures in which this occurs, it is simply a cultural norm -- nothing more, nothing less.
@PalacinkyPDX I hope that you are not suggesting that there is any relationship between the two. IN my 57 years of marriage, I have never hit my wife and did not victimize either wife with verbal or psychological abuse (in spite of my first wife heaping verbal abuse on me and playing mind fuck games constantly. In fact, I have never hit a woman in my l entire rife. I do not see any connection between the post and your comment.
Just a tradition. No law in the US requires it.
Traditional I think. I didn't change mine. Tax returns are filed using both names and so far no complaints from the IRS.
Ok tradition nor religious beliefs cover this one adequately. It's actually about property. Women were never allowed to own anything in fact if a women were a sole survivor of her family she held the property in trust until she married and her husband would then claim the property to be handed down to the eldest male heir. Once women were legacy allowed to own property last names became important (and a bunch of other historical events I am skipping over) . So women fought to get the last name of there husband to be counted. It's way deeper and sinister than that but limited time and typing space. If that very very very brief explanation has you thinking go down the rabbit hole and research it.
My two friends Jane and Steve got together about 20 years ago. They are still together and have a fantastic son. Jane had been married before and would never do that again. However she did not want her son to suffer at school, so she changed her name by deed poll to Steve's.