Ok ladies...what do you find most baffling about men? What really irks you, pisses you off, Impresses you about the male species? Good or Bad...
I like some men - and some women. I don't see any traits that apply to every single one - except maybe their genital assignment (and even that's up for question).
We all have our quirks, our mysteries that only we understand, and many have a great appeal - but not to everyone else.
I try to avoid the vexing, irritating humans, and tolerate some of those things in friends and lovers, because they are inevitable !
What surprises me with the women here in their comments, none mention what has been one of the biggest complaints my female friends make about men other than the toilet seat thing. They tell my that when they are talking about their problems that a man wants to fix the problem not just listen to them vent and sympathize. That is always how I react to someone problem, too, I try to solve them. Is this just a Canadian man thing?
@witchymom , I have a sister like that, too she can even fix her car but, it is more common with men.
@HeathenFarmer The gender equality ratio has always been higher in Canada than the US, but Sweden and Norway stay up there as number 1 and 2. It is somewhat of a States thing. LOOK at our tv shows to see how we are indoctrinated. A man is taught to find his own solutions to things and if he can't he should go to someone he trusts ( father, g'pa, brother, friend). Historically, women had no power, so they learned to vent. We don't want an answer, just the chance to be vocal about what ails us. That's why men, when women come to them, try to fix it. My last boyfriend was happy to hear this cuz I told him he didn't even need to listen when I vented--just nod and look sympathic. There would be no test at the end. Lol
@EllenDale ,Your last boyfriend might have been better off he did listen. I have found that if you just nod and look sympathetic, sooner or later you get busted. Better to pay attention so, you know what point to offer words of encouragement, positive responses, a sympathetic touch or a hug.
When men are sick and act like they have an undiscovered deadly plague. They lay around moaning and whining about how bad they feel and can't do a god damn thing. While women who are sick still go to work, take care of the kids, cook and clean.
I’ve been working and taking care of my family sick or not while my dear departed wife slept late and refused to clean the house. I’ve gone to work with walking pneumonia, swine flu, swollen back etc,. without complaint. I regularly work late, take work home and turn to all the time. So, I’ve had the opposite experience. Women have been the do nothing complainers, but then I was raised by my mother. She regularly worked herself to the bone to raise my brothers and I.
Wow.
Actually I just read a research paper on the Man Flu it is actually a fact that men get sicker than women and suffer more from it. As for physical pain it is the complete opposite; if a man says he has sprained a limb it is often broken not sprained, as an example.
I wish I had the same upper body strength. However I could do things in Yoga class they couldn't. lol
I'll target the age group of men. The 60+ year old men. It irritates me when they don't look for women in their own age group. They target young, gullible women. I'm not gullible. So, they have no chance with me. Sorry to disappoint the old men on here. I was taken advantage of by an elder atheist in a local atheist group. I'm not a fool anymore. I stand up against abuse!
I think that’s bias. I don’t expect to get with a 21year old and have no desire to do so. I already have one daughter.
I hate to tell you this kid but someone your age interested me about as much as a case of crabs.
You should've seen my messenger on here when I first started. Blown up by older men.
@Gatovicolo You'd be surprised by what a lot of older men want.
@HeathenFarmer I'm not a kid. I'm almost 30.
I have no objection to having a relationship with a younger woman. I’m not biased in some way. But what are we going to talk about? Theres no common ground. @Sarahroo29
@Sarahroo29 Ok, if you insist, I have over twice the life experience dating someone your age would be like raising another child. I really have no interest in doing so. Culturally and socially I have far more in common with your grand parents than you. I all three of my step daughters are older than you. You seem to be an intelligent young woman, so, you do understand that your sex drive will not peak for 5 to 10 years mine peaked over forty years ago, all though dying from wild love making may not be a bad way to go, I prefer to live a little longer.
@HeathenFarmer My grandparents are all dead.
@Sarahroo29 , sorry for your lose, do you get my point considering this fact you stated?
Smell thing? Have to bring this up for all you folks! I had a conversation with a male friend about "smelling people" ie: Some people smell really good to me (well people I'm attracted to). And that them smelling "right" has really played into compatibility. He was "You smell them?". Me "Yes right in the curve of the neck". Him "I don't think I smell women?". OMG? I thought men were scent based! I mean he's my friend and I now stand on a stair to hug him cause otherwise I'm nose first in his sternum and can't smell him as well. To me it's almost imprinting! BTW I don't mean cologne I mean what we smell like. Maybe soap or fresh laundry plus that certain je ne sais quoi? Not fond of cologne.
I see men posting here, so I will too. What do women find baffling about other women?
Lots! Some of the behaviors make me cringe. Also prefer women who will communicate what's going on rather than playing "Make you guess". I've had a lot more male friends than female in my life.
@RavenCT Amen Sister!
I volunteer at a local bluesfest, and when conversing with the two guys cleaning the toilets they both emphatically said the girl's porta-potties were by far the grossest.
I'm not totally sure why I'm sharing this story...
@Hominid < I was once an operating engineer in a large shopping mall uncharge of the cleaning staff; I heard more complaint about the mess in the women's washroom than anything else. The staff used to try to dump that job onto the other guy/gal all the time to the point I had to assign the task on a rotating basis.
Well women do have one more bodily function that might just gross out some men? Otherwise our bathrooms should be way neater as we pee sitting down. Except the idgits who squat to avoid the toilet seat - which I believe Snopes debunked? rofl (Had a coworker who did this - I wanted to hurt her).
@ConnieR , Remind me never to ask any of these women friend of yours out. I view a woman I am dating as an equal and I expect them to have a mind of their own and to be able to express that fact; mice bore me.
Baffling-someone who comes on strong -asks for 2nd date during 1st date then cancels 15 minutes before he is supposed to pick you up for the weekend. Also someone who talks to you on phone for week-anxious to meet-then blocks your text. Deciphering if someone is just dating or wants a relationship.
Intelligent conversation about social and political events impresses me. However political activists have no time for a relationship. Honesty and candidness are appealing. Its in the eyes.
Men are very easy to figure out.
Give them commands like dogs (sit, stay, rollover... do the dishes, vacuum, clean the shitter)
Explicit... not Elicit (like women speak, uh, the dishes are piling up, the dust bunnies are multipling, the toilets a mess)
Leaving the seat up on the toilet. Please put the lid down!
Lol
@HippieChick58 See my ten reasons to date me at the bottom of my profile info. LOL
But the ladies don’t return the favor. It’s a one way favor expected of men. I’ll leave it up, thank you very much.