How do you cope with heartache? My ex fiancee and I split coming up on almost 2 years. It took almost a year before I finally started dating again and that lasted for about 6 months. I saw both were in new and (what appears to be) happy relationships today. This really hit me in the gut hard. I was extremely in love with my fiancee and still have some residual feelings. With the othwr relationship I feel like I finally had someone that could understand me and she was also atheist. Which was the first time I ever dated someone that claimed they were atheist. Alas, both didn't want me enough and we've all moved on. What gets me upset is that it seems to come so easy for them to find someone whereas I feel like in my case it's near impossible. It's hard to deal with this uncertainty. To open myself up; I used to be a bad alcoholic and cocaine addict when I was younger and gave both up because I was tired of embarrassing myself. I had to quit smoking cigarettes because I developed a nicotine allergy. Whenever I get down like this it becomes a challenging battle to not give into my cravings of my past addictions. So, in order to clear my head of my negative feelings and hopefully find new creative avenues of expression I would like to know how everyone else deals with a broken heart?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.time and brownian motion you got to let go as much as you can and bounce of as many people as you feel comfortable with holding on just keeps you rooted in the past and no one likes meeting people who only talk or act out about things they can no longer affect as humans we are so involved when in love that extricating ourselves can be a slow process and a painful one good luck
weeman
Level 7
July 31, 2018
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Look back on how wildly successful you were when you gave up those incredibly hard to give up vices.
When I'm facing something so overwhelming I can't think straight I sometimes look back and wonder how did I do it then?
This may be a bit simpleton but I imagine an electrical circuit breaker box and I see my hand reaching finger extended and just flipping that cuircut off like I did before and that works for me.
All of a sudden she's just someone that I use to know or a habit that I use to do.
If that doesn't work you could always try touching a real live wire. I hear that has some positive effects too. jk
Perspective, thats only two out of 3 and 1/2 BILLION women.
Good luck bud stay sober. You can do this too.
Anonbene
Level 8
July 31, 2018
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I write a poem and 2 songs.... nothing beyond.
GipsyOfNewSpain
Level 9
July 31, 2018
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I journal my way through it, every morning. The goal is three pages a day. Put it on paper and you don't have to carry such a heavy load in your head all day.
Nottheonlyone
Level 7
July 30, 2018
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@Nottheonlyone
Excellent idea.
I did the same thing.
Exercise increases serotonin and makes you feel happy. You will gain confidence and energy.
During my divorce, I exercised like a demon. Every day.
Avoid alcohol. Alcohol is a depressant.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
July 30, 2018
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Hmmmm, the addiction issues lead me to think you are trying to fill some hole inside yourself. I did this for years before I figured out what I was doing. I took some time off from dating and focused on me. When I fixed a lot of my inner thinking and when I built a life by myself that made me happy, oddly, I started meeting people.
This may not apply to you, but it sounded eerily familiar. The best part of all that is that it doesn't matter now if I find someone or not. I'm happy either way.
AuntieMame
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July 30, 2018
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