Does On-line dating seem backwards?
Not wrong just backwards.
I got used to meeting lots of people in the course of everyday life and sometimes getting to know and then finding I really like someone. It just sort of happens over time with no expectations.
But with on-line dating we meet someone hoping the attraction will be there and we are disappointed when it isn't. I find if I start with the idea of just meeting someone new and enjoying that part of it I don't build expectations and am more willing to just go out and meet new people just for the sake of meeting new people. I find I am willing to travel farther and risk more when it's not always about finding the one. It's been fun.
Totally. I keep trying it but never getting very enthused because it never seems right. Whatever you see about someone online is just a tiny fraction of who they are and yet somehow a decision is supposed to be made about whether or not you want to date them? Ugh. I know it can work out, but I think it is not a natural way to go.
What am i voting for if i vote "yes?"
"Online" everything is great. We get to find others like us way far from here. This is the true purpose of the age of electricity.
And, as reasonable to expect, there are foreseeable, and unanticipated, consequences that come with the changes that have brought the good bits.
I try to apply this principal to more than just meeting people : I believe that anticipating an outcome in advance is the source of much of our disappointment - as opposed to just going with the flow, and not trying to determine what will happen - before it does !
Especially with meeting folks found on dating sites !
Online dating is not backwards. Forced marriages and arranged marriages are backwards.
Meeting a man through online websites is like a blind date. Remember: Nothing is real until you meet.
This gives me the opportunity to meet people whom I would never meet.
I usually date men from Seattle who are hikers and skiers. Skiers have winter driving skills and snow tires, to drive up to snowy mountains passes where ski areas are located. They can drive over the passes in the winter to visit me.
Also Seattle men are usually better educated and liberal like me.
Here's my joke about middle-aged, single men in Wenatchee:
"If I wanted a fat, ignorant, good ol' boy, Republican, tobacco-chewing, judgmental Christian, fisherman and hunter who love his Harley, snowmobile and chainsaw and decorates with antlers, I'd be all SET."
I was not implying that backwards is wrong just the opposite steps from what I am used to.
Forced marriage and arranged marriages may be backwards in the since that they are antiquated but that is not how I was using the word. Forced marriage and arranged marriages are wrong there is no question there.
A blind is just that, little or no knowledge beforehand.
Absolutely, nothing is real until you meet and sometimes not even then. What's missing up front in both blind dates and on-line is the chance to see someone over time for real .
Saying there is "little or no knowledge beforehand" with online dating is incorrect.
You can have Skype and telephone conversations, to get to know each other before meeting. That's what I do.
Nowadays, It is easy to look up people on the Internet. You can check if they have criminal background, convictions, liens, licenses, filed for divorce, etc.
"Washington Courts- Search Case Records" website.
This is what young people do. They also check a person's social media: Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc.
@LiterateHiker Yes, I have availed myself of google and other options. It's a good way to weed out potential disasters and also find ice breaking conversation starters. I did have one woman who searched me and almost didn't respond until she figured out that the unsavory individual with a very similar name was from Texas and wasn't me.
Just to be clear I enjoy and recommend on line dating. I've met lots of fun people some for a day some for on going friendships.
Wow, sounds like my life in central Florida only substitute pickup truck and gun collection from the antlers and snowmobile. That's a big ol' steaming bucket of "NOPE".
This has been my problem, too. I am just much more comfortable meeting people first and then deciding if I want to know them better than I am deciding I want to know someone better and then meeting them. I see it working well for many,though.