What do you guys think about little body procedures that stave off the effects of aging or personal preferences? I don't mean full blown plastic surgery...I mean things like botox, fillers, chemical peels, teeth straightening/whitening, etc. Do you think it is vain? Would you tell your partner(s) that you have had these done? How important is appearance in picking someone to have a relationship with?
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What anyone chooses to do with their body concerning plastic surgery is up to them. Personally some have gone too far and then there are the truly bad results. It's not my place to tell others how they should look.
silverotter11
Level 9
Aug 2, 2018
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I suppose.... arrghhhh!!!!! How do I put this!?!?!?!?!?!
If it boosts a person's self-confidence, then it is in no way a bad thing, I suppose. BUT on the other hand.... I consider those little lines and grey hairs as signs of character, signs of hard-earned experience, and I love them as part of the person I'm attracted to. If I'm attracted to someone who's 40, or 50, or 60.... it's that person inside, and the way she looks is part of her and an essential part of what I adore. However she chooses to look.
Even my ex-wife's wine-colored hair, back when our marriage was actually functional... even though she looked just great without it, she insisted on dark wine color. And I loved her, back then.
Paul4747
Level 8
Aug 2, 2018
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The owner of the body gets to decide what to do with the body 
Anything you want to do...from hair color and teeth whitening to full face and body lift is YOUR right.
SkotlandSkye
Level 8
Aug 1, 2018
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Do you think it is something that should be shared with a partner? Should they know that smooth forehead is a result of a procedure? That your hair is dyed? etc? How much does one tell and when?
@thinktwice Should is a tricky word. For me, when I am in an exclusive relationship with a partner, I'm an open book about my medical, cosmetic and various personal care procedures, the costs, etc. I don't see a reason not to be since I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. All one has to do is look at my hair to know it's not a natural color -- so I couldn't very well keep that a secret. LOL!
I wonder if you're wondering about keeping the mystique kind of thing -- letting him or her believe that it's just all nature creating the picture they see. I would not advocate for that as it feels like lying to me. But, I'm kinda weird about radical honesty, and trying to maintain a [coy] facade about how and why I appear the way I do would be exhausting and out of the question.
As to when. Would I proactively disclose to a new date that I had braces, get botox, and color my hair? No. That's just weird to me. Somewhere along the line, it will come up in conversation and I'd talk about it the same way as I'd mention going to get my tires rotated. "I can't make it till 6:30 because I have a botox appointment at 5:00." "Saturday morning is out because I need to color my hair." Easy peasy lemon squeazy.
@thinktwice it's none of anyone's business up and until YOU choose to make it their business.
I've had braces. Don't regret it. Just wish the real fix didn't mean breaking my jaw because that is outrageously expensive.
I'm seriously considering botox for between my eyebrows. Who knew that sunglasses (which I never ever wore) were so important? Removing spider veins on my legs is also on the wish list. The only thing temporarily stopping me is cashola. One day.
Beyond that -- meh.....to each his own. However, I personally find most people were more attractive before full dramatic face lifts.
BlueWave
Level 8
Aug 1, 2018
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I started botox in my late 30's..those frown lines were making me very unhappy...and looking the part...it is expensive but most reputable places have botox clinics where they can maximize the use and make it more affordable..I had spider vein therapy..and, oh ouch! Not into pain so I won't be doing that again!
@thinktwice But, did it work? The spider vein stuff.
@BlueWave Yes...they inject a solution of saline water into the tiny veins and they dry up like magic...I had laser done on the ones on my face next to my nose and those did not hurt at all...they can't do large varicose veins...
I wouldn't advise having any plastic (or botox, whatever that is) injected into you.
And, look at some of the bad results out there..
Also, for what worth... you look just fine, pretty lady...
Buddha
Level 8
Aug 1, 2018
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Botox is a neural toxin that weakens certain muscles so that they won't be worked so hard to create frown lines, lip lines, etc. It is a myth that you cannot be expressive and that your face looks frozen. Thank you for your compliment, but in my mind's eye, I don't want a frown line to ruin my happy disposition...
Too often driven by objectification and the purchaser of the procedures internalization thereof. If you've had an accident or are really an outlier, then maybe. Better is eat clean, don't abuse bad stuff, prioritize sleep and work out. Age is to be cherished. Prepare for and embrace it. An older person trying to look young is sexism at its worst.
Mitch07102
Level 8
Aug 1, 2018
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Not all procedures are just for looking young....many can be used to correct a bad habit or to fix something that makes a person feel older on the outside than they do on the inside within reason. I am not talking about a face lift or wrinkle removal, etc. Modern plastic surgery clinics use science and medicine to improve skin tone, repair sun damage, and can be part of a healthy regime of keeping skin clear and nice no matter the age.
If it makes you feel better about yourself, go for it. If someone wants breast augmentation or a face lift, go for it. It is your body to do with as you please.
Sticks48
Level 9
Aug 1, 2018
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ha ha I just needed a little support for my decision to go to the botox clinic today...I feel bad for a few hours, then I am fine again...I am too happy a person to look mad just because of a small wrinkle in my forehead!
@thinktwice Darlin', you do what makes you happy.
@thinktwice People say I look grumpy all the time anyway. I think because I don't grin much, the most I do is maybe smile... but at neutral my face kind of turns down. "Resting bitch face". Well, so what, why should my face look happy when I'm not?
@Paul4747 Our faces should reflect what we feel...not just for others, but for ourselves as well...that is why I won't do anything drastic...lol...not yet anyway...I figure once I reach 90, I won't care anymore...
I think this is a very personal choice and probably all of your voting choices could apply in various situations to different people. It could be vain, or it could offset some condition someone might have. Can it go too far? Can it backfire? Yes and yes.
As for the importance of appearance in finding a partner for a relationship: I think it's impossible for that to NOT be at least a factor. I hear a lot of people saying they care about what's on the inside and some even go so far as to say they don't care about appearance. I'm sorry, but I think that's BS. Everyone discriminates (which is not necessarily a bad term, we all discriminate/choose/filter/judge in various ways constantly) to some degree on appearance.
IAMGROOT
Level 7
Aug 1, 2018
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Yup
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