I hear you. I wish these religious people would keep their beliefs to themselves instead of trying to shove it down everyone else's throats. This using religion to control people needs to stop.

Yup. But brain-washed, religious people can't think logically.
Or don't dare to.

We have no command to become "fishers of men" and recruit people to our way of belief. That's a huge difference to me. I do love to talk about my beliefs with willing people, but don't expect I'm going to change anyone's mind.

I'm on your side, buddy.

I'm not clear on what you're saying. Your mother thinks your no better than church goers if you don't respect their beliefs? That makes no sense.

Sounds like the demand of many believers for automatic, un-earned respect and deference for their views, no matter what they are.

The real situation is you can respect the right of people to hold whatever views they wish, but you don't have to agree with or find those beliefs beneficial yourself.

As you suggest ... it's a matter of general indifference outside the group until they start attempting to control people outside their group.

Love your mother if she will let you.

Is it specifically the "intolerance" she is focused on? And how is that "intolerance" manifested?