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Whats your assessment of online dating? is it for the damaged, desperate or is it 'normal' these days?

Singleaussie 3 Oct 14
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I think it's as normal as any thing can be 'normal' but I think it works much better for those who have adapted to the texting, chatting, messaging form of communication. I'm old school. I like talking to people. I like to hear their voice, it's tone and timber. I am sometimes misunderstood when just using words. Perhaps because I tend to be a practical person which often comes across blunt.

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I'd say it's normal. ? If you meet someone and share "We met online" I doubt anyone will be surprised or aghast.

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With everyone running around living parallel lives, online meets are a good idea. My last serious relationship was someone I met online , so I see the value. A friend, who lives in NYC, met a guy online who was in Australia ! Long story short - after some visits back and forth - they are now married and living in her tiny apt in NYC !

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It's another tool to use to meet people. You have to be careful just as you do when meeting people in any situation. I have two friends who met their now husbands on OK Cupid. I met my last LT boyfriend on a forum. It's not for everyone but it's a viable avenue.

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It was a disaster for me and when it started to affect the way I saw all men I decided to walk away.

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there is 3 dating apps. relationships, meet ups, and hook ups. Its key to finding the right words when searching for what you want. Be pickie if you wanna be happy. But if your not a picky person then hook up apps are best. Not every one can spell or write like a poet so meet ups is best if they can't or your not finding what you want from either of the two.

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I guess it's what you make of it - my oldest son met his wife online and they seem very happy. I tried it, but it didn't work out for me....seems like many men are looking for younger women.

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FB for example, has enables me to connect with people around the world and I have connections that I value. The people on line are the same people you would find in a bar or at a social event. Some are great and others are disturbed. I have not had a ton of luck with relationships on line, but it is the modern method of getting to know people and to meet them. We have broadened are outreach through the internet, and yet we are isolated from so many people who we would like to meet due to distance.

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I would use the word "normal" but acknowledge that I do believe it is changing how people view one another. (deep subject). I'm single, and trying online dating sites/apps, and personally find it somewhat depressing.

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I think it's pretty much the norm these days.

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I think it's pretty normal these days, though some prefer face to face meeting and don't use it (it's not all inclusive).

Zster Level 8 Oct 15, 2017
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There are certainly plenty of damaged and desperate people on online dating sites. But for me, since I no longer believe in a deity who is able (if he pleases) to assist me in finding the perfect mate, I see online dating as maximizing my chances of meeting someone with whom I could establish a long-term satisfying relationship. In the five years that I've been on one or more dating sites, I've learned some painful lessons about not assuming I know more than I actually do about someone I've not yet met in real life. I think the key is to be careful, patient and realistic in the process. And never give someone your trust until they have actually earned it. In real life.

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From my limited experience, it seems to be overpopulated with scammers, who get to the point that a friendship seems on the horizon, and then start asking for money for travel or other costs. Or else the site is so intent on gouging money from it's members that it is made as difficult as possible to make real contact with a potential date.

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I see it as normal for today's culture.

SamL Level 7 Oct 15, 2017
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i think its pretty normal

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I think it is normal for people living in the digital age; I think it is todays answer to personal ads in the newspaper. Todays society tends to isolate us, for many people their social life is their online life.

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