I'm hard wired poly. In the depth of religious dedication & commitment. monogamy was such a foreign concept. I didn't understand the whole idea to being dedicated to a single person, body & soul, for all eternity. I kept thinking these people love each other but sex isn't love & love isn't sex....

I've had people go off on me for being poly. I confirm they are in a monogamous relationship, dedicated to their partner & then I ask, "so, if, gawd forbid, your partner could never perform another sexual act, at all, would you stay?" These people look pole axed. So far, only 1 person, after a ton of consideration, gave a halting yes. Everyone else wanted to argue those things don't happen.

Then I explain I know I can't be the end all be all, no one can. If my partner wants certain things I have no interest in, why should he not get that from someone else. I mean, I have no intention of jumping out of a perfectly good plane but he wants to. & so does another friend. They can go right on ahead. (Good luck with that.) I'll be on the ground to welcome him back to terra firma & he can tell me all about it. Feel the same way about sex.