Who do you get along with better? The people the same gender, the opposite, or a mix? I find I get along women more so than I do other guys. It has always been that way. I attribute that to playing the flute throughout my schooling years. Being around the opposite gender day in and day out just made me feel more comfortable after a while. Any thoughts as to why you get along with the people you do?
Strong women. To be honest your average female (no offense here honestly) I don't get along well with as I just can't relate in most discussions. I've got a few male friends but I find them exhausting, they just want to go out and drink and talk about liquor while they're doing it. Like I give two shits about the hint of oak in the weak poison you want to pour down your gullet so you can regulate your happiness chemically.
Women are just easier to get along with...it's always a pissing contest with men.
I was always more interested in hanging out with the guys because (in my generation) they were 'allowed' to do much more exciting things. Females were designated to do sewing, cooking, husbands and babies; these were not my goals in life.
However, these days I find I hang with a mix. I seem to have a mutual connection to younger men (I don't mean sexually) who are maybe late 30's to mid 50's, women of my own age with a similar mindset, who I find to be awesome, older gay men and younger gay women. Kinda all over the board really!
I've generally had a strong distrust of women due to the nature of childhood bullying that I dealt with growing up. As an adult, I've discovered that many of the guys I was getting along better with had a sexual agenda, however inappropriately (when I was married). Now days, I get along on a case by case basis. I tend to mingle best with those who most WANT to mingle. Currently, that means mostly women and gay men.
I get along with girls more. I love playing ball with guys but women like to have fun. When I was in the military I tried to "hang" out with guys. One dude invited me to his party. I asked him what will we doing? He said hanging out and grilling.?. How boring. Just sitting around drinking and talking. However with women they like to have fun and do things. Women have their boring side as well. Especially shopping. Most women seem to more level headed than men these days. Just my opinion not a fact.
I get along better (meaning they actually will have a conversation with me) with married women and middle aged gay men. As someone who is looking for a female partner, it's like having life say, "haha fuck you!"
Bro. Your right I didnt think about that till you said it. Lol.
If American, men more so than women.
If foreign or with broad international exposure and life experience, women more than men.
I think I get along equally well with men and and women. All things being equal, I enjoy being around women more then men. And not just because of getting to be flirtatious or anything like that. It can certainly add a layer of fun I really enjoy true; but I feel the same even if that layer is completely absent.
I like spending time with my male friends, but I love spending time with women.
Yeah historically I’ve gotten along with/been more comfortable with women than most men. I trust and admire women more in general, probably because my dad is a shithead and my mom and sister and I were very close. I’ve still met very few guys who weren’t pretty huge shitheads and the best of us are only shitheads about a third of the time. ? But most people in general are idiots too so it’s quite a curve we have to grade on.
I grew up around boys and tend to prefer hanging with men and prefer them as roommates too. Some girls get that weird catty competitive bullshit and I don't want to deal with that. Right now though I have more female friends than males, but I think a lot of that is because my last workplace was WAY female dominated and I know more females. And some guys get weird about just bring friends too. Sigh...
Side note, I play flute too! 4 years in the army band and now I play in community groups.
It's a mix. What pleases me most is that the majority of those closest to me have been my friends for over thirty years.
@Donotbelieve Thanks, that's nice of you to say, but, they put up with a lot.
@Donotbelieve You are unbelievably sweet! I appreciate it very much. The real truth is that knowing them has made me a better person. They've each offered their own character, generosity of spirit, weird-ass sense of humor, honesty, intelligence, and staunch loyalty, and I really feel like I'm the luckier one in the deal. Not to mention, they keep me honest and always call me out on my own bullshit. We ALL need people like that in our lives. If we all had it, I think the world would be a much better place.