I worked for the US Federal Govt where back-biting and career sabotage seemed to be a daily challenge. Almost no one had a sense of humor about anything. I had been hired out of town and co-workers cussed me out for "taking their jobs" (I hear 'took our jerbs' everytime I think about it) It was a crappy job and I was happy to have retired shortly after getting it. If you are in a lousy work environment I can only advise stick to your work and hope something else comes up to transfer to, maybe even get a different job. Sometimes co-workers will change and become friendlier with time but others will never change. Good luck.

Oh, yes. I was also in that situation. All female staff, most were much younger than I was, some barely out of their teens. I just kept my head down and did my job exceptionally well. Polite and friendly, but not friends. Don't share too much personal information, it just gives them ammunition.

Sorry you're having trouble. I've been there, and learned that it's best to start slowly, even though it seems natural to share at first. It's always best to listen and observe, to study the group dynamic before you decide where you want to fit in. You may want to pick one person to be a friend, or you may decide to be the loner in the group and find friends outside work. I try to pick something where the work makes me happy, so any good relationships with co-workers are icing on the cake. If I don't like the work, I look for something else!

Wow..sorry about the trouble at work. I used to be the only (unknown to me at the time) partial transmale and demisexual in female groups at work, so didn't comment when women went on and on about hot men they'd met, drinking bouts, and gossip.

I listened, but didn't really care all that much, and learned not to ever mention my own weekend activities..hiking, riding my horse, camping, canoeing, etc. In that workplace, I was promoted out of that group and given my own department, with my best friend in the company. She was funny, and similar to me.

But in another group where the co-teacher wanted the class to himself and kept making false accusations about me, I changed jobs.

That doesn't sound like a very healthy environment. I have worked with all females before, and this defenitely was not the case. I say do your best to be diplomatic, but also look for another job.

Nope....

Document everything as best you can. Where is your management in all this? Sympathetic to the ones you're having difficulty with or neutral?