I don't care , what does it matter ? If my partner needs my time , then I ll give my time . If he needs money , then its money . If he has a broken leg and needs someone to clean house or walk the dog let's say , my time will be given . If no insurance or whatever and needs meds / care , I ll pay whatever I can . Y not ? What else love can be than " I am here for u ".

Time, absolutely!

My partner needs to have their own money ...

As a married man of 25 years, I can say with out a doubt it is time. Money comes and goes but relationships are built on time. We have had plenty of money in the bank at times and at other times we didn't have two nickels to rub together. The thing that has kept us together is the relationship that was built with time. Money isn't real.

I expect my trust to be earned. I expect my prospective partner to give me expensive experiences and his time.
If he is not a big earner, then I expect very thoughtful surprises and romantic gestures that require effort.

Not for any other reason that I know it’s a challenge for him. If he can’t be bothered, he just isn’t actually interested in anything but a fuck.

If I accept him into my life, he will be showered with love and would not expected to jump all any further hoops. We would be equal. I do this, because being difficult is a shit filter, and if he passes the test - he is in.

I sound like a real bitch, but I have had the misfortune to have some very unpleasant experiences in relationships, including financial and emotional abuse. This closed down my openness to relationships and made me very, very cynical.

Lots of people who have a great deal of money and spend most of their time making even more, don’t realise that just keeping their partners (and children) in the lap of luxury is not always enough. It’s easy to give money when you have plenty, but time spent together is much more precious. A lesson some men learn when it is too late.

Money is a variable that differs from person to person. It is something every couple should decide upon before forming a lasting relationship. To me it doesn't matter who the largest breadwinner, so to speak, is. But it matters to some. Time, once you have come of age, is definitely more important and more meaningful in the long run.

With time you both can figure out the money.

I expect the man to provide money support anyway...I would never even date him if he expected me to pay the bills.

But I since I support myself, I value time together. I bother with relationships to gain a ballroom dance and hiking/birding partner, so if he's not up for that, I'd rather be single.