Haha! Hey, he should be thankful he got a part!

One of my oldest friends broke up with me because our talking was putting a strain on his marriage. Granted, it out a massive strain on mine too, but my husband is a bit more tolerant than my friend's wife.

To be fair, I had kinda fallen for the guy, and since he had been in love with me for several years, he had to decide what he wanted to do. I don't blame him. Still hurts though.

@VelociraptorRemy Ohh, that sucks. Was there anything for them to be suspicious of or was it just a matter of jealousy and insecurity of the their part?

Okay, I see you edited the answer into your post so I'll do likewise with mine. So the friendship was potentially dangerous to both marriages. Yes, it's a sad scenario but they did have a reason to compel it to end before the damage was done.

And you win the comments! I love the photo bomb. It did make me laugh. Thanks ☺

@VelociraptorRemy glad to be of service.

I love Hugh Laurie!

Well my husband is two months older...does that count?

Omg. Yes! Relationships make me feel instantly trapped. Once it’s “official” I just begin to feel claustrophobic and the relationship is doomed. I thought it was unusual as most people are endlessly searching to be loved. I just don’t feel like that. I thought for a while it might be because I perhaps don’t like men. I kind of actually feel like kicking guys in their misogynist nuts most times, but then I had one lesbian fling and had exactly the same claustrophobic feelings, but even more intensely- like run! For the hills! So, I am basically a primarily heterosexual woman who just doesn’t want the hassle of being with anybody - romantic partners just make me unhappy. I don’t want to get tied into other people’s complexity. I am complex enough for one! I enjoy socializing and some light flirtation maybe something physical, but then I want to be by myself with a cup of tea and a book.

@Livia That's me, definitely. I would love a different category of relationship..a lifetime "friendmate" who lives near me, or in an adjacent apartment, so we could hang, do stuff together, cuddle during a movie, go dancing, hiking, etc. but I can leave afterward and do as I please. I used to drag out the courtships as long as I could-dancing, hiking reading novels aloud to each other, etc., but eventually all the men start pressuring me to fish or cut bait..to make a commitment. That's usually the beginning of the end.

@birdingnut high five sister! I would love a long term partner that lives next door or down the road...forever.
I just don’t want to share my space or the things that ruin relationships- like finances or children.