Crush...yes

Secret...no

The physical distance is just too great between my crush and me.

Yup. I'm guilty too. I'm just not sure how to go about making contact. I'm still relatively new here so i'm trying to get the hang of things.

I don't think observing that a particular person would definitely be (or not be) a candidate for life partner in some hypothetical situation would constitute a "crush". That would involve actively fantasizing about the person and feeding that fantasy with constant attention to the person's posts and profile.

I vacillate between wanting to be here for community and for a potential love interest. I am still working on healing from a bad break-up that involved many layers of betrayal. It may take a while, but I'm pretty sure that it is a bad idea to immerse myself into anything beyond friendships until I can drop some of this burdensome baggage. That being said, I find myself attracted to men on this site rather frequently. I like men, dang it! Men can be all kinds of fun! But until I am more confident about my own ability to be strong and supportive for someone again, I will keep my secret crushes secret.

Yep.

I'm a sapiosexual. I'm waiting for someone to capture my mind. My body will follow. Granted, there are some attractive people here but if they are all looks & no substance, its like getting an empty box for Xmas. Its pretty to look at but nothing inside.