What is the best thing to do when someone says something to you you find offensive?
Yesterday at work, it was hot and I was really sweating (my work attire requires me to wear a float coat) when I approached someone I needed to interview about their fishing effort. I was out of breath and over heating.
When I said whew, this was a very unusual Sept day, he told me to get in shape. Followed by a quick almost undecipherable, sorry.
Now, this not only made me uncomfortable as I went through my questions, but then I felt the need to tell him why I was out of shape etc. Which is none of his business.
Being that I work with the public and have to put a good face forward, I couldn't go ahead and tell him to fuck off or anything. I just had to continue on.
How would you handle this?
This is not the first time, and won't be the last. I had someone from here say similar thing and it hurts. Why does everyone have an opinion when they know nothing?
Once when I was taking a hike, a family passed me a few times and we chatted as hikers do. The father was impressed that I was out there, my response is I keep going even if I am slow. Why can't people be more about what you are doing instead of what you are not?
I'd say "no problem" if they apologized...even if muttered and ignore it. Whether or not it upsets you is your choice. Like you said, they don't know you or your circumstances. How it affects you and makes you feel are choices that you can make. Sure it stings, but everyone has their own thoughts and opinions, but you can only control your own. Either that or thank them and let them know you are working on it and laugh about it... maybe do a light-hearted zinger back.
Shut.Them.Down.
Do we really care what mean people have to say ? Ignore , and if u can smile while ignoring , that's even better ?
Nobody perfect . I hope I am not ! What a miserable boring life that will be . If anyone wants to comment / point out my shortcomings and flaws , oh pls do . U r not telling me anything new , thank u for your contribution ? ♥️?