What was the biggest fear you lived with your whole life? The one that sometimes crippled you emotionally and mde you sometimes wonder if you had post traumatic stress disorder.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.A friend of mine told me that every morning as she looked in the mirror to apply her makeup before going in to work, she would ask herself if today was the day they would find out that she was a total fraud and had absolutely no idea what she was doing - just flying by the seat of her pants. All I could think of was....wow.....you too? How many of us think the same thing?
Lavergne
Level 8
Sep 7, 2018
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a lot...imposter syndrome is very common, especially among capable women...welcome to the club
When I was 15, my older sister's best friend, Carol, 16, was riding bicycles with a friend when a van suddenly pulled over. Two men grabbed Carol and threw her into the van, bicycle and all. Her friend got away.
Carol's raped and beaten body was found in a ditch two weeks later. This haunts me.
This was in sleepy Union Lake, Michigan.
I am a petite woman. My greatest fear is being grabbed by men and thrown into a van, never to be seen again.
As a result, I am hyper-alert when walking alone, aware of everyone around me. I never look at my phone.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
Sep 7, 2018
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OMG. I hope you are able to eventually put those memories into a box (mentally) and lock it away.
Since age 15, I have been repeatedly accosted and grabbed by men.
Two male supervisors tried to rape me between the ages of 18 and 21. This happened at an insurance agency and the Tacoma Family YMCA.
Both men overpowered me with their size and weight. One supervisor had me by the throat, pressed against a wall. We were alone in the office during lunchtime. The office was closed.
When he let go with one hand to unzip his pants, I managed to break free and run. I never returned, not even to get my last paycheck.
@LiterateHiker OMG...but now I see why you are the strong woman you are...and smart, street smart as well...your experiences have contributed to who you are, which is quite awesome IMO...I think a lot of women have this fear in the back on their brains each time they go in public...I won't have a drink in a bar unless I am handed it directly and see it made or poured...scares the crap out of me
Oh my I never had that worry, that is horrific. It does make me recall that worry that it would happen to my small children. So sorry.
Thank you, dear.
Thank you, Dave. Women and girls are not safe in America and across the world.
@LiterateHiker no they are not. It's a very violent country.
I suffered from imposter syndrome...always worried that things seemed to always work in my favor that had nothing to do with my own efforts...I could not give myself credit that was due and just knew people I worked with, went to school with, socialized with, etc. would "find out" it has nothing to do with me...it used to wake me up in the middle of the night, especially when it came to work...It is common to feel like this as a woman in the business world...but thanks to other women and some good strong mentors of both sexes, I got over it ...
thinktwice
Level 8
Sep 7, 2018
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That's another one that is interesting . I have felt inadequate but not quite an imposter
@Bigwavedave It is really irrational in most cases because I had the education and experience to support my credentials...it is a psychological thing that is self-inflicted...when people give you good reviews and raises, you would think that would stop the thinking, but it doesn't...it has to come from within...lol...the opposite of course, is bragging and self-promotion while truly being an incompetent imposter..kinda like who is in office now... 
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