Attended a wedding, in which the service was all about proclaiming the majesty of god, patriarchy, and alll the made up bullshit that goes with. Father, son, and holy shit. Mad spiritual wedding, which means they were way up in that holy shit, blindly accepting Christ, and all that stepping on a crack, break yo’ Momma’s back superstitious bullshit that goes with it. It’s alienating. I’m married, and not too happily. I don’t believe, and I am kinda thrown off by the willful rejection of rationale and logic that comes with it. I’m thrown off by it. Now, they’re playing EDM, or some bullshit commercial techno BS. Fuck this shit.
Your post made me remember the last wedding I went to which was actually only like about a month ago and it was actually wonderful it was the first atheist wedding I've ever been to it was short it was brief and no higher beings or mythological entities were mentioned it was really quite refreshing
I stopped attending religious serviced weddings and funerals because I can't deal with everything that they ram down your throat (or ear). I didn't attend my best friend's wedding but told him I would share in his celebration at the reception. I also gave them a gift to cover the cost so I wasn't there just for a meal. I also did not attend the church for my father's funeral. I wasn't about listen the lies about him going heaven or have some stranger/priest give a eulogy about someone they didn't even know. I understand where you are coming from.
Those kind of weddings make me angry, where the couple is instructed to put their faith in God for the success of their marriage... Um no... the couple should put their faith in each other and their own integrity in creating happiness and security in their marriage, and to seek professional help (not prayers) if they can't see their way out of troubled times.
Those are the kind of weddings I tend to hang out in the "baby crying" room, which is less painful to listen to than the service, or just show up at the reception after the service is ended. That is likely preferable for the couple than watching me rolling my eyes at all the God talk!
The weddings I perform are guaranteed to be God free - and that's the main reason couples hire me over the religious ministers. I'd say the trend really is toward secular weddings, over religious ones nowadays, especially for the younger couples.
The only thing worse is a FUNERAL like that. Yes, fuck that shit!