I just stumbled upon a YouTube video posted by a mother who lost her male fetus at thirteen weeks. The mom not only delivered the fetus, whom she named Isaiah, but she posted photos of the delivered fetus and also of his subsequent church funeral service. Needless to say, I watched the entire video despite my feeling that I was indulging in something truly creepy. The fetus looked like an alien being. There was an especially disturbing part of the video in which the fetus was held under water to better display the irises of his eyes. Dropping down to the comment section, I was not surprised by all the religious incantations and statements made by some of the millions of viewers---such as ones that asserted that little Isaiah was in the palm of Jesus' hands, cavorting with the angels, singing in the holy choir, etc. But most distressing were the comments, mostly by women, about how "beautiful" little Isaiah was. I'm telling you, friends . . . This fetus was anything but beautiful. It was, in many respects, horrifying (malformed skull, undeveloped ear buds, a seeming smile on it's alien face). Why am I telling you all this? Because I'm rather ashamed that I was ghoulish enough to indulge in this distasteful, voyeuristic activity, and I'm also hoping I'm not the only one who's ever watched videos like this and come away feeling somehow soiled.
Gosh I didn't think it was still possible but I never cease to be amazed about the really horrific things that religious people will do
Don’t beat yourself up about it, we all have a fascinating pull towards the ghoulish. I think the mother probably wanted something tangible to hang onto. Never having been in her unhappy position I can’t really say with any certainty how I would have dealt with the same tragedy, however, I can say with absolute certainty that I would not have done any of these crazy things she did. I just hope she has got over the loss of this foetus and can move on and perhaps give birth to a healthy child.
The woman (let's call her Rosemary), and anyone who attended this "service," are insane. Don't look for rational behavior from insanity. You'll be disappointed. I get a laugh by thinking about how much money that sanctuary of souls made from Rosemary's baby. I've never been a parent, or even close, so don't understand grief over the loss of a fetus. It wasn't anything, yet, so there's nothing to grieve. Go try again. That oughta boost your spirits.
I'm partly joking, of course, but some folks are too emotional, these days. As for your watching the entire video; that's creepy. I wouldn't watch such a funeral but watch other things that you might not so no judgments. Those things always make me feel soiled.
People don't know how to grieve with dignity any more. But yeah, hard not to look....
I felt bad looking at pictures of cojoined twins, like they are animals in a zoo or something. It dehumanizes them & I think it dehumanized me too. So much so that I have not wanted to click on stuff like that again, even though I have a lot of genuine interest in health & medicine.