simplistic. what is the appropriate attitude, one that will cause happiness, if i find out in two days, as i well might, actually, that i have cervical cancer? there are many choices i have: give up, fight (some choices within that choice, too), sleep my life away because it's so tiring, try to overcome it even though i know i will die soon, in order to produce something for the world, or less reasonable choices, but not a single one of those choices is going to make me feel HAPPY.

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Yes and no. I'm not going to put the onus for my happiness, mental comfort, etc on other people, but at the same time, nobody's emotions exist in a vacuum. If some fucker comes along and, idunno, steals my car, I'm not gonna be happy no matter what I 'choose,' and it's gonna be his fuckin fault because he stole my car.

Happiness depends on your attitude.

Life is made up of chance and choice. Yes, bad things happen to good people. We choose our reactions and behavior.

How true!

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