I've tried online dating in the past. I would say that I had mixed results, and I'm still single, so none of them worked out. I don't know; I guess it's different for everyone. You have to know your own comfort level as far as meeting people. Me, I prefer not to go to bars alone, that only invites unwanted pickup lines. And I haven't seen any interesting guys in the supermarket; the ones pushing carts with kids in them are especially no-gos and aren't even interesting to me (for the most part, they are probably married anyway, or they could be divorced. Still... no bueno). Hope it's a lot different for you though.

Why do many young guys say in their profiles that they have sarcastic humor? I noticed this trend in the Plenty of Fish dating website forum, with young guys asking for help because they get no replies.

Sarcasm is defined as: 1. Harsh or bitter derision or irony; 2. A sharply ironical taunt; sneering or cutting remarks; 3. Bitterness, ridicule and jeer. (Dictionary.com)

“Sarcasm is really just hostility disguised as humor,” said Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D. “If you want to be happier and improve your relationships, cut out sarcasm since sarcasm is actually hostility disguised as humor. Despite smiling outwardly, most people who receive sarcastic comments feel put down and usually think the sarcastic person is a jerk.” (From: “Think Sarcasm is Funny? Think Again.” by Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D., Think Well, June 26, 2012.)

Perhaps young men aspire to be like “the meathead clowns floating through the films of today,” said Linda Holmes in “Bad News, Men: You’re Not Very Charming” in The Atlantic on May 28, 2013.

Why do young men think sarcastic humor is positive? This baffles me. What are your thoughts?

Online dating can only really work for those who can communicate effectively through their writing skills. Some people are just better in person and need to focus on meeting people in the settings you mentioned. It's not for everyone, but you seem to be able to get yourself and your personality across in your words, so I say stick with it for a while. It can take a while and needs some experience in knowing what to say and how to say things so they are not misunderstood by others. Good luck to you.

Yes I just smoked, so perhaps that’s why only these words stood out: “the problem is people..” ...simply a tool”. Made me laugh ?

The internet and online dating sites are simply a tool for people to use. If someone is not willing to meet you in person, or if that's not a possibility, the relationship is not a relationship and never will be.

Hi, Chucky,

Meeting in person is best, for sure.

But if you want a backup, this website has a bit of a learning curve, so here's some info, in case you need it.

For members who are open to dating, certain thumbnails and profiles have a heart symbol on them with a percentage. This identifies which members are open to dating, and the percent shows approximately how compatible others are with them.

You gain website points by answering all the profile questions and writing a bio, which also earns website points, and helps other members get to know you.

Commenting on posts and writing your own posts earns more points. At level two you can private message people, and at level eight you get an agnostic T-shirt.

If you want to date, the website uses profile algorithms to find member matches, so the more details one includes, the better the match.

Many people prefer to see a written profile talking about interests, hobbies, and backgrounds that can be quickly perused to find others with similar interests..

In case you didn't know yet, to find members near you, click on the "Browse" button at the top of the page, then on "Members," and enter your preferred search parameters.
Click on the "Discuss" button, then "Nearby" to find members near you also.
Or click on the "About" button at the top left of the page to find links to FAQ or the website tutorial.
Points are now being given to level 3+ members who chat. You can see chat rooms on the group main page or at [agnostic.com].