No, you're not a freak. I've been single for three years and I am starting to hate it. I've gone out with a lot of men in that time, but I still haven't found a good fit. I have friends and family I love, but there is no substitute for that person you feel most at home with, that person you feel totally safe with, that person who makes you laugh like a fool.

Nothing wrong wanting a partner and too feel co extend to another human being ...if that was a disease our species would only procreate when sick...lol...makes no sense

Maybe I'm a freak, I enjoy it.

Extroverts vs Introverts. Except it shouldn't really be a war. Neither is wrong. People are just different. ?. Find someone who matches you and you will be fine. ?

I need a certain amount of time alone.

Being socially awkward in High School,I never attracted a girlfriend, so come the Senior prom,I stayed home,did I miss much?,So after graduation, and the draft getting close,I enlisted in the Air Force,while my classmate were marrying and having kids,and later divorcing,I was over in the heat and humidity working on Aircraft in Thailand. Loneliness became part of who I am,after discharge I got work in San Diego,but my low wages held me back from dating,so another bout of being alone for 16 year,seldom dating again.

Only after getting a better job was i able to afford a wife,so I ran an ad in a singles paper,my wife to be read it,we met ,dated and married 6 months later,sadly,Cancer took her away from me after 27 years,so loneliness yet again.....

We are all on a spectrum of how much human contact we need or want.

Does someone who can man a fire watch tower need as much contact as a person who works an office job in the city?

It's absolutely normal.

Happiness with anything is a result of properly allocated effort into that pursuit. It doesn't just happen and although a lot of folks are happy with something they didn't put a lot of effort into, that's more often luck than common. If you're happy as an adult you're probably making that happen somehow, if you're in a relationship you're probably putting effort into making that relationship strong and enjoyable. If you're alone and happy, it's also probably because you're putting effort into activities that make you happy. Happiness isn't a destination, it's the road.

Seems like you're an extrovert. Extroverts get recharged by being around other people while introverts tend to recharge by being alone. Also learning to understand the difference between "being alone" and "feeling lonely" when alone is important. Once you come to that understanding, you'll learn to appreciate your self worth regardless of the need of validating yourself by others. By that that, I mean that learning to be, regardless of environment, strengthens your self identity. But no, you're not a freak, but you might be socially codependent.

I don't know if you mean not having friends, not being in a serious relationship, or simply being by oneself . I am married and have many friends, but truly enjoy spending significant amount of time alone. I would even say that I need that time alone.

Whatever is right for you is right for you and doesn't need to be right for anyone else.

I have always loved this.

I like being alone. I'm responsible only for myself. I don't feel I need be concerned about what others want, need, or think about me. I can pass gas and belch when the need arises and can be a total slob with no one to judge me. I do wear clothes with holes when home but do clean up to go out, though.

I'm trying to figure that out now. Moved to Michigan after an "amicable" divorce, married 20 years, together I think 5 years before that. Always had roommates or family before that. When I had to go grocery shopping for myself by myself for the first time, I had one of the worst panic attacks ever. I had them before in crowds, but this was the complete opposite and much harder. It had finally hit me that I was now on my own. That was a few months ago. I'm still trying to figure it out. Life here is completely different- from the Phoenix Metro area to an area (The Thumb) two-thirds the size with 95% less people. The slowed down life I think is better for me, so maybe, in the long run, the aloneness will be beneficial, too. My apologies if this got off track at all or went too long.

Nah, not a freak. We all exist on an introversion/extroversion, social/loner spectrum. It doesn't help directly with the romantic side of things, but do you have any hobbies or interests that you can participate socially in? Is a pet a possibility?

There is a huge difference between alone and lonely. A strong independent person who looks after themselves. Will attract other people.

Human critters are group animals. I'm alone also and do get lonely sometimes. I have my dogs, who are also group animals. It's not the same, I know. It's worse being lonely with someone in your life. That's a bummer.

I keep telling myself that loneliness and happiness comes from within. Dwelling on it doesn't help. We have the capacity to make ourselves lonely and unhappy. Like we decide. We can just as easily decide the other way and decide to be happy. In my opinion.

I love being alone too. But no all time. Sometimes everybody needs to connect with other people. We are social animals. You can receive amazing things from others, but also toxic elements. Trying to get the best, it isn't easy. However it give us wealthy, knowledge or experience. Life is that too. That is only my view

it used to bother me a lot. Then I discovered various social groups. I live in a large city, this may not be available where you are. I force myself to go out, even if I don't want to.

Sometimes it seems extroverts like us are in the minority these days. I go nuts if I'm at home for more than a day or two. And I hate being single. Sure I know how to enjoy my own company and bla bla bla. Doesn't mean I have to like it.

I'm better with it than I was. When I was a kid, the only recurring nightmare I would have was waking and find everyone gone. I'd dream of myself in different locations, but no people.

Now, that doesn't seem like such a bad thing.

I try to see my loneliness as a disease, like diabetes. It's just something I've been afflicted with and must live with. I have to accept it, and carry on. This seems to help me when I see it this way.

I don't think "most" feel fine with it.

I'm not alone out of choice but it is a lot better than what I had when I was with someone. I guess I've just got used to it but have always been comfortable in my own company.

It may also be a factor that in any given month, take this month for example, I'll spend 10 evenings with my daughter, 14 evenings doing my 2nd job so will only have 7 evenings to myself so I'm not alone all that much.

I like being alone unless I'm going to a movie, or out to eat. I hate sitting in a restaurant alone.