My poor cats, I am temporailaraly back with him, he invited me back, didn't want me sleeping in my car, not safe, he said, but my cats remember living there, though there are very wary. I am looking for an affordable place to live with my cats, or another motel to stay at, but right now, they are all booked up for the Hershey antique car show !

Smoking, excessive drinking, name calling, ugh. Stay away from that nonsense. Good decision girl! Life's too short to put up with this. Good out and have fun, fun, fun.

Good. Dude sounds like a jack wagon.

Change is always an adventure, not only for you, but for those who are following you on the journey. Best wishes and keep us informed of progress, hit us up for support, and stay resolute. From your posts it sounded like you gave it your best effort. Now put that determination into starting anew!

Sounds like you made the correct choice.

Sounds like you are well rid of him.

Cats and Dogs like a routine,when the boxes and tape guns show up,it upsets them,it may take weeks or months to be reestablished again. You'd think if a couple like each other,manners would be followed, but in your case,the drinking brought out lack of inhibitions on his part.

Dodging a bullet there,consider,what if you had a child or two with him,and the influence on them from smoking?

Good on you! If you're in a pattern of attracting and being attracted to gaslighting men who are emotionally abusive, you might want to change your internal settings.

Some people use NLP hypnotherapy to change negative childhood imprinting, BBC says that careful use of magic mushrooms and ayahuasca can reset the brain. But the main thing is to believe you deserve someone who kind, honest, and who puts you first.

Well done.

Brave decision which sounds like the right one.

Good on yer.