I can agree that getting into the next relationship before you are ready emotionally is not a good thing.
Ultimately how one moves on will be individual. There’s a lot of different factors such as how the previous relationship ended, age of the person, whether there are children involved and the reason for the split( divorce, death of a spouse)
I had no intention of waiting very long after my divorce to get back into dating.

That makes absolutely no sense.

I am a year out of an 18 year relationship, including 17 years of marriage. I'm not going to live long enough to wait 35 years before getting involved again. Although I would prefer never over a repeat of the last mistake.

If that's the case, I'll be dead before I can be in another relationship.

Emotional "rules" + humans = high unpredictability and inconsistency.

To try and establish a set of rules for emotions would be at the very least a monumental if not an impossible task. There are just too many variables involved, personality differences; character traits; personal preferences; childhood experiences; traumas (medical, psychological, and emotional); and mental health. You could work at it for a lifetime and not be able to come up with a set of rules that would accommodate the majority of the population. Human emotions are just too complicated.

Poppycock.

You're ready when you're ready. Only you can say.

I'm not sure if i need 9 years.. But another 9 months would be helpful.

Holy shit....based on those calculations, I will be dead before I am ready to date again?????

I just believe love and chemistry happens when it happens.. math is meaningless in the affairs of the heart..

fifty five years, not a hope in help for me.

You're a little confused here... That's the rule for robots...

I heard it's 1 month equals 2 years.

My husband died 15 years into our relationship. Am I supposed to wait 7 1/2 years??