Lol I am comfortable alone. Too comfortable. I wouldn't say I'm actively searching I just get lonely sometimes

Me too, but at least I have experienced it before. It is hard to trust again once you have had your trust broken.

I feel the same.

I wish I had the answer to that question. I've been looking all my life. Just when I think I've met him, something happens. So frustrating.

It is one of those things that get harder the more you try, it will not happen until you chill. It happens to most people sooner or later, especially if you are not self absorbed. Speaking as someone who is, I think, a LOT older, all I can say is that you do not always "fall" in love, often it just creeps up on you over time and one day you turn round and realize that you have been deeply in love for a long time, and had only just noticed. The way to find it, I think, though it may not be the same for everyone, is not to go dating etc. but to do things that interest you socially, help with a charity, join a walking club, travel with a group, etc. Not only will that widen your circle of friends, but it will widen it especially among people who share your interests and likes, and while you are doing it you will also widen your experiences, and that will make you seem a more interesting and worth while person to those who may love you. Then one day one of your new friends will turn to you and say. "I would like you to meet .......... I know you have a lot in common." And then?

Because it takes time to get to know someone. Besides, not all men are as wonderful as me.

Me too. At this point in my life, I wonder if I am even capable of having a romantic relationship. It's like I am not psychologically equipped to handle anything but solitude.

I wish I knew. All I can do is commiserate. ?

It took me until I was 45, I hope it goes quicker for you!

I wonder that too, from time to time.

I want this too. I want the things that you want but the biggest problem I have is that things change. Yes, things change and people change and I'm always the one who is the most resistant to that change. I can honestly say that I believe this is why people do not stay together.

I've only met people in real life through hobbies and work. I think dating websites and apps are not a good way to get to know someone.

What are your hobbies? Are any of them social? For example, do you play a musical instrument, and can join a band or orchestra? Other ideas are hiking clubs (the Appalachian Mountain Club is an excellent way to meet fit, intelligent, educated people), social clubs (atheist groups)...

After visiting some friends here in my Navy reunion the reasons are clearer to me anyway. I have evolved beyond the humdrum inane things and it is very hard to encounter someone that has had life realizations that have matured their thoughts.

Often it comes unexpected, when you are not really looking. It is also different for everyone. However, that is not to say that you do not search out your love. Mine found me, which is good because with my Asperger's I probably would not have searched it out on my own.

Not to say that you lower expectations in any way, but often it is found in the most unexpected places.

Why do you think is hard?
Can't you love, or always end bad?

We can't always get what we want.... that's how the song goes anyway

Me too.

You don't choose who you fall in love with, that's why it is called "falling" in love. Because if feels like involuntary falling without a net. And if you don't fall in love, it is pretty hard to be loved back.

"There are no good people left" leaps to mind. At least, not ones compatible with ourselves.

I can love when I dream, so I probably have what it takes. But I have never met anyone in real life that makes me feel that way while awake.

No one will give you what you can only do for yourself.

Our and other's expectations of what we want in a partner. If someone doesn't meet our criteria then we normally don't give them or us a chance to fall in love.

it is hard for the same reason wanting to be married, without having a specific spouse in mind, is hard. it's a condition, not a thing, and it differs from couple to couple. being in love won't even feel the same with one guy as with another, and likwise being loved. i used to marvel at girls (when i was a girl) who wanted to be married. to WHOM? it's a CONDITION. don't worry about falling in love. be with people. if you fall in love with one, and he falls in love with you, that will be different from how it would be with any other couple, even if you were one half of that couple.

think of it this way: look right at the sun. now look at the lights that dance in your vision. you can't. they float away. stop looking and there they are. it works like that.

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It is what culture has evolved too. Thanks to the internet most be can find tenpory companionship just by swiping right.

There are thousands of guys playing video games right now that would dream of meeting you. Let alone fall in love with you and you them. Your a sci-fi fan. Thats a buyer market for gals. Just be open to the possibilities