Many thanks!

Did you raise your children to be secular? My parents and grandparents are deeply religious; not going to Sunday services means I'm not worth their time even though I'm only 10 minutes from them in either diection by car. I'm always impressed by secular families when I see that everyone is so close and hasn't been tainted by belief systems.

@Return2Sender My ex is a very conservative Xian and webmaster of a Xian hymnal website. At one time I was a Bible Study leader, lay leader, and speaker. So my kids were pretty much raised in the church. For two of them it didn't take at all, and my gut tells me the youngest is going to church to make daddy happy. So, my oldest is married to a catholic though she doesn't go to church except to have the baby baptized. The middle will only go to church if a niece or nephew is there, and the youngest plays in the band at her dad's church. I see my kids at least every other week, and we do family holidays/birthdays. My kids also grew up nomadic, their dad was active duty Army, and then we moved a few additional times, so we learned to rely on each other for the most part.